How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Frank Schaeffer recounts his embarrassment when his son John, joining the military (enlisting no less) rather than going to the shi-shi-poo-poo college he'd been expected to attend. It also tells of the immense pride that Mr. Schaeffer has come to feel for his son's committment to the Corps.
Unless you're trying to say that since other people make bone-headed comments, you can too.
Did you read it? Did you really enjoy it?
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
1) Do you find that you are "picking up the slack" for your own spouse while he is working and on the weekends while he is catching up on things you do during the week?
2) Would this post of yours (Hardly. We pick up the slack you create during the week when your working and on the weekends when you're catching up on things that we do during the week. School isn't the only place we do it. You just happened to want to pick it out because the truth hurts.) go towards a WOHM with a SAH spouse as well?
3) Specifically, what type of things do you find that you have to pick up the slack on?
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Name anything you'd like, I'm not leaving slack and you sure as HELL haven't been picking any up.
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