How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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"Can I just say that if CLW didn't exist, the SAHM on this board would have had to have invented her"
as if we had the time~
unity^
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unity^
Seems to me we just picked different careers. Mine allows me to work part time when my kids are small. But, wait, didn't you SAH for a few years when YOURS were young????
My mom never went to college OR had a job after she was married. And come to think of it, my dad doesn't have a college degree either. I didn't model their behavior. In fact, I don't believe I needed any coaxing to go to college. I'm a productive, upstanding citizen who's smart and can take care of herself. And I didn't need a brilliant daycare provider to get me there. My "uneducated" stay at home mom did a fine job.
How does a child know WHY you go to work? Let's say a 2- or 3-year old.
My kids see me doing things that need to be done every day.
Anyway, I have two sons, so I'm exempt.
SUS
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