How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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I've not been involved of any of that part of the thread about CLW's provider being better than her (mine were always of the SAME quality as I am as a parent), or sahms not being able to handle jobs...i had NO part in any of that.
ALL i responded to was that ONE statement that you made. JUST THAT ONE. And what's condescending is that you ascribe my posts to agree with the rest of what CLW has to offer -- when i have IN NO WAY contributed to ANY of that part of the debate.
take my post at face value. I ONLY had an issue with that ONE statement. I will not get into a further discussion of CLW's beliefs beyond her provider being an ASSET.
eileen
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How do you define job and career?
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In your situation, I would have chosen differently, because I value my career, uninterrupted, as well as my young children.
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Edited 8/24/2003 9:58:34 PM ET by silverunity
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