How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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You could hire someone if you wanted to keep working, and your schedules would be JUST AS EASY on the whole family. You would have prepared the baby from 4-6 weeks to take a bottle. If you had wanted to, there were other ways, other than for you or DH to SAH, to make your family life run just as smoothly. YOU wanted to be the one to make it run smoothly, and to SAH.
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Yes, I know it's your house. I understand that if something needs doing, you do it yourself - but the point is, it's getting done either way, so what is the *measurable* difference?
Ill have to sit on my mushroon and get back to you`
I hope that clarifies it. Sorry to see that you think that CLW "deserved" it. NONE of us here deserve that kind of treatment.
eileen
Try again. This boat ain't sailing.
eileen
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