How does this relate to the debate?

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How does this relate to the debate?
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Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm
Hey I rhymed! lol

Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.

I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...

There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.

There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.

Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new

Hollie

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 9:20pm
Really, could you get any lamer? If you're going to try trolling, at least come up with better material.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 9:21pm
My workplace requires me to be physically present. And does not permit my children to be physically present. It's not like I have help because I "can't handle" physically or stress-wise doing both.

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 9:21pm
I'm wondering how happy and secure one has to be to resort to name-calling on an anonymous internet board.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 9:23pm
You SAH because you want to.

You could hire someone if you wanted to keep working, and your schedules would be JUST AS EASY on the whole family. You would have prepared the baby from 4-6 weeks to take a bottle. If you had wanted to, there were other ways, other than for you or DH to SAH, to make your family life run just as smoothly. YOU wanted to be the one to make it run smoothly, and to SAH.

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Registered: 03-23-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 9:24pm
But what is the actual *difference*?

Yes, I know it's your house. I understand that if something needs doing, you do it yourself - but the point is, it's getting done either way, so what is the *measurable* difference?

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 9:33pm
lol, I only wish it was getting done either way.

Ill have to sit on my mushroon and get back to you`

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Registered: 08-01-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 9:39pm
Ill have to be frank, i dont blame her. CLW can dish herself out but she not take it. IMO ladies, she deserves what she get's.
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Registered: 08-01-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 9:44pm
To blame someone for trolling, only makes you look like the troll.
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Registered: 03-29-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 9:50pm
NO, no one has the right to personally attack another poster. In fact, it's part of the TOS agreement that we all signed in order to participate in this forum. You can vehemently disagree about whatever she or any of us write, but name-calling and insults have no place in this forum - BY ANYONE.

I hope that clarifies it. Sorry to see that you think that CLW "deserved" it. NONE of us here deserve that kind of treatment.

eileen

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Sun, 08-24-2003 - 9:53pm
And yet, we still manage to raise our kids. "Every waking moment"???? Not by a long shot considering I still had 50+ AWAKE hours per week with my children. And of course, i only work 181 days per year. What about those "waking moments" all the other 184 days???

Try again. This boat ain't sailing.

eileen

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