How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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And Eileen's children are all of school age, although she does have a nanny for before/after care and to assist with her special needs child. Surely you aren't suggesting that even mothers of school age children shouldn't work.
First of all, I don't understand what that had to do with what Eileen said.
Second of all, Eileen's children are school age. . .other 'women' would be responsible for her children even if she DID SAH. So what WAS your point?
However, we have a wonderful nanny (just started with us in July) who is with the kids before and after school. My special needs daughter has her own para professional (same one for the last 2 years) and has been in the same classroom for 6 years (4 years with the same teacher). My 3rd grader is excited to be in her new teacher's class -- especially since she has a "crush" (LOL!) on her son. I think ds is excited to go to 7th grade, but is a bit nervous about liking his new teachers -- especially since he adored last year's teachers immensely.
And yes, the nanny has responsibility for the children while i'm at work...getting them up, getting them dressed, fed and off to school with their lunches and their materials....receiving them in the afternoon, snack time, overseeing homework and play-time (oh, and nap time for Alyssa). However, that is just about as far as her "responsibility" goes as dh and i are the ones that are totally and completely responsible for our kids' health, social, emotional, educational, physical and religious needs for the total of 18-22 YEARS.
Maybe next time you could actually post a response that makes sense and addresses the topic at hand.
eileen
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