How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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My career is a significant factor in my life, but certainly not more important than my family. To me, if I had a job, I'd be concerned about the paycheck and benefits, but not a lot more. What else would there be to care about?
How do YOU define a job? a career?
Edited 8/25/2003 10:50:56 AM ET by peteynjoeysmom
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I also completely agree that the difference between a job and a career is such that having (and wanting) a career means that it will take more precedence in decisions than a job might.
Laura
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The fact is, from the company perspective, it is absolutely ok for us to take off for weeks on end if need be for sick kids. People in our depts. would think it downright weird for us to not take care of our own sick children. The juggling comes not so much from pressure from the company or colleagues, more from our own experiments which we just hate to mess up :-). We have got the system down now and it usually involves each of us working parttime on those days so that we can get the most important stuff done.
Laura
With DD, she started about 5, and she would just write a sentence or two here and there. And over time, it has become more thought-out and organized. Now, at 6 1/2, she could easily spend 30 minutes writing in her journal.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Several posters on a long ago thread expressed surprise that I end up taking off about 10 hours during normal working hours per month (to be made up at off times). Sounds like your employer expects more than 10 hours a month to be needed.
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Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Laura
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