How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Additionally, my kids have always had a fairly rigid bedtime schedule. Both still get up. Routinely? nope. But occasionally. And ds DID get up routinely until he was well past two.
Rigidity vs. flexibility of bedtimes is not always a factor in night wakings. Can it be? sure. But does it have to be? nope.
Hollie
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(as to the younger generation paying the tab for the older? And all the other wrongs of our SS system? that's a whole 'nother debate.)
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And I've *always* held my "jobs" for bigger and more reasons than just a paycheck. And they haven't been things that were a stepping stone to bigger and better. And they weren't "long-term" situations. I've changed industries. I've done a lot of things that wouldn't "fly" with a career as a doctor or a lawyer. But that doesn't mean its just a "job" to me.
Would I quit if I won the lottery? Probably. But then I'd most likely continue doing hte type of work I am on a reduced basis ... pro bono. Becaue I enjoy working. I enjoy doing things I do.
If I was gonna have "just a job", I would SAH.
But I bet, if you looked at the details of my position and my past employement history, you'd turn your nose up as me having "just a job."
Hollie
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See, they regulated their own sleep by my being supportive of their NEEDS. . .gasp, what a thought.
DD2 is going to bed at roughly 9:30 pm and gets up on school days when her sister's alarm goes off at 6:30 am. Ds is at a transitional phase where he needs a nap, but then has trouble falling asleep at night because he's not quite tired enough. . .he went to bed at 10 last night and fell asleep at 10:30, and was ready to wake up about 7:30 (when I tempted him with "The Wiggles").
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