How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Now does that mean they can't become an officer later? Nope...if that is what they choose to do, it is fully possible and MANY people do it.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
At home, my kids scribble random thoughts in theirs. When they're twenty, I'm sure they won't have a clue what they were trying to say. (of course, when I read my journals from a year ago, I don't know what I was talking about...) But it's good practice - for writing and journaling.
Why would it have to be in cursive and complete sentences to be useful?
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Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
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Your co-workers could put up with some moaning if it went along with necessary financial survival.
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Why would you want to just get by in anything you do? What could possibly stop you from wanting the most and the best?
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My dh is a kick ass NCO. . .he doesn't have to be an officer to be at 'the top' in his military career.
He can be his own personal best without rising in rank, but it's not objectively "the best."
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