How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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As far as why ALL people don't enter as enlisteds, I cannot speak for them all. But in what I have seen a good number of them are entering as an officer for either the money or the power...
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
This may not be what most of us want for our children, but it's not so clear cut -- there probably is someone who lives a completely healthy happy working as a manager of a shoe store-- his/her life would be just a fulfilling and rich as a CEO of that shoe store chain.
Laura
Linda
Linda - wife, mother, grandmum &nb
You will be slamming that door shut for all other future female engineers by leaving the field of engineering and taking a more traditional woman's role in teaching.
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