How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Linda
Linda - wife, mother, grandmum &nb
My dd1 just tried out for the school volleyball team. . .before last fall she'd NEVER played on a team sport before. She made the "C" team. . .she was striving for the "A" team and I supported her in that knowing she probably wouldn't make it. . .but I reminded her of the progress she has made in her volleyball skills over the last year. If she practices more she'll have a better chance of making the "A" team, but more than anything I want her to enjoy the experience.
My perspective comes from the fact that in ECE we use subjective, as well as objective measurements, such as portfolio development. . .and I spent way too many years of my life trying to meet some arbitrary 'standards' without studying what I truly loved and was passionate about.
When I started attending college, I had really no firm idea of what direction I was heading. I had thoughts along the way, but nothing that really jumped at me. I proceeded to get all the little transfer requirements out of the way with faith that I would figure it out at the right time. After a necessary break from school (difficult pregnancy, my own health problems) I'm going back this fall. I'm moving in a broad direction because, though I know what interests me, I don't know what specifically I want to 'do.' I know it'll grab me when I find it.
Linda - wife, mother, grandmum &nb
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