How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Sorry, I'll be more sure to make all my posts relate directly to your chosen locale in the future
Linda
Linda - wife, mother, grandmum &nb
And I was taught to get straight As because I could, and if my kids are able to get straight As, I want them to do so. Why do they need to know a specific reason at age 13 as to why it's important to do well? The answer is it will help them achieve ANY goal to get straight As.
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However, what does it matter if someone is more respected or not? Is that really what you want your kids to strive for? Other peoples respect?
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
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I do recall mentioning what my kids would do in the ob/gyn office. But you would laugh if you knew what my dd (5, not yet in K) writes and draws in her journal. She just gets off on the fact that her daddy gave her a fancy leather bound journal (a freebee from a sales training seminar) and it is HERS and only she can write in it. That is what the thrill is for her. Oh, and the fact that her room is such a mess that we often can't find the journal for weeks at a time and when we do it is such a wonderful surprise!
I really am curious why you think a mother who encourages journaling is bizarre.
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