How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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What does being the manager of a shoe store mean? It means that they have attained a goal. It means they have a career they enjoy. It means they are doing something that pays the bills and supports their family.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
To each his own, I guess.
Authority may be bestowed based upon title or rank alone, but not respect.
Surely there are judges you deal with whose authority you must respect, but whom you do not respect as a professional.
The people who are successful are that way because they have the passion to do well. The kids that I saw in college who didn't do well were those who did well previously because their parents pushed them to do so-- in college, their parents weren't there anymore, they didn't know why they were working so hard, so they had problems.
And I'm sorry, but there's no way managing a shoe store is a "career."
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Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
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