How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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>>>And I'm sorry, but there's no way managing a shoe store is a "career."<<<
You are very very wrong here. Career is defined as:
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a) A chosen pursuit; a profession or occupation.
b) The general course or progression of one's working life or one's professional achievements: an officer with a distinguished career; a teacher in the midst of a long career.
It may not be something you respect, but I think we have already been through the fact that I could care less if I have the "respect" of others and it isn't something I'm teaching my kids to strive for.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
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For example, I know a lot of people who played an instrument at a young age. Some were very very good. The ones who learned to play well just to excel at it quit as soon as they were out of their parent's constant watch whereas the ones who really liked to excel for themselves continued to play and enjoy it.
The fact is, I don't *need* their educational or career advice. If I ask for their opinions on a subject they give them. But I'm capable of handling my own life and have been for quite awhile. I motivate myself, set my own goals, work for them on my own, etc. If I had any interest in what they do, I'd possibly have more to discuss with them. But I don't. And that's fine. I'm a big girl.
Why is the value of anything related to its appearances for you?
Are you really that shallow? That's a serious question. . .and not meant as a slam.
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