How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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e.g. if they are capable of getting A's but they say that they are happy getting C's and skateboarding all day then as was said in one episode of Cosby show (does anyone recall that episode where Theo wants to be "a regular person"?) i would tell my kid that that's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard.
Laura
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Laura
I know that whatever I do, I will be one of the most knowledgable people in that line of work. Not because I'm striving to be the highest rank, but because I want to KNOW what I'm doing. I want to be able to know my job inside and out and DO my job in the best manner possible. And that is true whether I'm working in fast food, retail, insurance, law, education, military or whatever.
As far as my kids, I want them to do what THEY want to do. If one of them wants to be a nurse, should I push them to be a doctor because the doctors are more respected? You might, but I never would!
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
I want my children to do their best. . .THEIR best. . .and I want them to be happy, productive individuals who contribute to their world.
If my child does that as a firefighter, police officer, enlisted service member or teacher, then I'm fine with that. If my child does that as a doctor, lawyer, officer in the armed services or as a professor, I'm fine with that as well.
I also realize that I nearly went into medicine for the prestige and status (because I thought that was what my parents wanted). . .and I was miserable. I went into the education and ECE fields because I LOVE it. . .and in the process I've worked my way through a bachelors and nearly a masters. I'm well respected in my field and am a leader in my field (at the state level at least). YOU might not consider that 'status', but the respect of my peers and affection of children is enough for me.
They do have careers, just as a shoe store manager has a career. However, they are DIFFERENT careers. And if we go by your logic, where do we draw the line. Are YOU the one who gets to decide what jobs are worthy enough to be labeled a career?
>>>You're not going to go to law school so you can be gainfully employed and make money?<<<
I can be gainfully employed and make money as an administrative assistant or a shoe store manager or a police officer or whatever. If I choose to go to law school it will be because my love of law has one out over my love for other things. I could go back into insurance right now and be making REALLY good money. But I am not interested in it. Even for all the "respect" and money it earns, it wasn't worth it to me.
Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
He also had to keep a journal -- it started off with what his teacher calls "kindergarten pre-writing" and ended with real printing using real words once he learned how to read and write. It also has pictures. Given that I've kept a journal since age 12, I guess I find nothing bizarre about my five year old doing so. We all need creative and safe ways to express ourselves. Much healthier than internet debate boards. bwhahahahahahahahahahahahaha
outside_the_box_mom
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