How does this relate to the debate?
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| Wed, 08-20-2003 - 7:56pm |
Something occurred to me earlier and I wanted to see how others thought it might relate to the whole "which is harder SAH/WOH" portion of the debate that crops up so often.
I think that, when you look at either group *as a whole*, the WOHs might have it harder. And this is why ...
There are virtually no SAHMs who SAH because they "have to". There are virtually no SAHMs who are forced to SAH. A woman that SAH wants to SAH.(I'm sure there's a few exceptions out there; controlling dhs who MAKE their wives SAH, disabled children, etc) A woman that SAH doesn't hate her "job", or else she'd go get a WOH job. A woman that SAH is generally getting what she wants.
There are LOTS AND LOTS of WOHMs who WOH because they "have to". A single mom, or one whose dh doesn't make enough to support the family, or one with a disabled dh, whatever the case may be ... she may long, with all her heart, to SAH, but *can't*. Many WOHMs hate their jobs, but can't quit.
Anyhoo ... just wanted to stir up something new
Hollie

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Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14
Thankfully, neither of us live a marriage of check and balances. We are not really to picky about who gets what and when or who gets how much time with the kids. Of course if I really had my way....I would never have to cook and if he had his way, I would never make meatloaf again.
To each their own, but like PJM said...we have gone down this road before. In a nutshell, some feel that if your at home all day...then your dh should do nothing (barring birth or death) when he gets home but play with the kids...if you want take-out---you better get in your car and go get it yourself. Others (like me) feel that if the wife needs the help, the dh can pitch in on occasion and if take-out is the evening meal...whoever is closest and has the least amount of kids better get it.
Thanks....
That sounds like a person that hates their life to me.
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