How has your position changed (Or not)?
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How has your position changed (Or not)?
| Wed, 03-04-2009 - 7:13pm |
Think back to before you had children. How has your position changed regarding children and the type of care they receive changed? Or hasn't it? Have you changed how you feel about what is better for your particular family's situation?
Have you mellowed? Have you become more strident?
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I think I have become more tolerant when I see moms struggling with kids having tantrums, instead of staring like most people do shaking their heads I really try not to look at all.
I could be that mom the very next minute really.
I don't pass judgment and think, if that was MY child she/he wouldn't be acting that way, like I might have before.
Can I confess that something I am actually a titsy bit glad
The things that look good to absolute strangers can be the worst thing for the actual kid. I had to constantly check myself when dd was younger,
Oh, yeah. The Erica that outsiders saw was NOT the real Erica.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
Hmmm...I don't really know. I didn't much think about it before I had kids, because I never wanted kids. It took dh awhile to talk me into it. Regardless, I knew I would work once that decision was made. I didn't give much thought to what other people would do. My mom SAH for 12 years, my MIL SAH, so it's not like I didn't think that was an option. Just not an option for me.
I guess I'm not more mellow now. I'm definitely less of a workaholic. I see the benefit of reducing my work hours. I also see the benefit of SAH, whereas before I didn't give it much thought. While some families do perfectly fine with two WP's, for others it's a recipe for disaster, unhappiness, neglect...This may sound crazy, but some parents WANT to be there 24/7. Just as I wouldn't be able to stay at home for more than a few months, some families would be miserable with two full time working parents. Anyone who assumes that their way is the right way has the complete inability to be empathetic (or is it sympathetic?)
I've gotten the ability to see the other side simply by having SAHMs who've loved it and haven't suffered for it.
And then there's the outsourcing argument. In some respect, it does seem strange to have 100% of moms work, and then end up having to hire people to watch their kids while they do it. Sure, it creates more jobs, but I wonder if it doesn't separate the classes a bit. Just rambling there.
thank you.
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