How the Kids View SAH and WOH

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How the Kids View SAH and WOH
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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 10:09am

Something I heard yesterday in reference to my decision to return to work: "Well, the good thing is you'll be showing your kids that it's okay for a mom to have a career."


This threw me. I've never felt that my children weren't proud of me no matter what

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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 11:24am

I agree Sandi, and fortunately, my dh has always been pretty good about reinforcing those ideas in our house.

My kids loved their preschools, but certainly not *more* than being at home. When I quit working out of the house to stay home again, they were in third and second grades and they did both mention that they were glad I didn't work anymore. Now that they're older, they understand that if I WOH we'd have more money to do things, buy things, etc. But they also understand the time trade off. I just don't think at this age they really care one way or another. In fact, they'd probably PREFER that I work just so that they could have unsupervised internet surfing time, phone conversations, and unlimited access to the fridge ;)

The younger ones like staying home. They had VBS last week, and by day two they were saying, "Is today a stay at home day, mommy?". They enjoyed VBS and didn't put up a fight in going, but they were glad when it was over to be able to stay home and hang out in the pool or play with the neighbor friends.

I think because they've (the older ones anyway) been exposed to both me WOH and SAH they are flexible with either one. My younger ones are reaching the age the first 2 were when they started preschool (and I'll be going back to school) so hopefully it will work as well for this round.

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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 11:31am

Here's Joy's take: When I didn't work, she had to interact with Erica. When I worked, she didn't. And when I worked, we had more money. She didn't understand (heck, none of realized why Erica required a sahp, just that it worked best if she did) why I sah'd when we needed the money.

CHris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 12:05pm

I had a friend make

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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 1:36pm
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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 1:44pm

I think that Liza definitley suffers from the "only child with single parents" syndrome b/c she is the moST comfortable around adults and prefers adult conversations to hanging with kids her own age most of the time.


Oh, I am sooooooo very familiar with this phenomenon!!


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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 1:48pm
OMG, we really are twins.

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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 1:59pm
I am telling you, no dis to your mother, but I am still suspicious about my uncle. ;)
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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 2:00pm

I have never known a child from any type of home who did not aspire to some type of career and expect to have one.

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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 2:06pm

I think it depends on the child's age and how much you are available to them. I do not think a toddler is going to think "Wow, it's cool my mom works/sah".

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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 2:07pm
Lol....my girls and I love that show and song. We play it in the car all the time. They always say "Mom, you have two jobs (nursing and us) and you work really hard but your married".

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