How the Kids View SAH and WOH
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How the Kids View SAH and WOH
| Wed, 08-06-2008 - 10:09am |
Something I heard yesterday in reference to my decision to return to work: "Well, the good thing is you'll be showing your kids that it's okay for a mom to have a career."
This threw me. I've never felt that my children weren't proud of me no matter what
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""Mom, you have two jobs (nursing and us) and you work really hard but your married"."
Sometimes I'd have to say that qualifies as a third job ;)
Hmmm, that is interesting. my mom sah for over 11 years. I never thought once that I would sah. We always talked about careers that I wanted or colleges I wanted to go to.
I really do not think work status has anything to do with letting your kids know they have options. I think it has to do with your parenting and personality more than your work status.l If she were happier at home, you would not have felt you were 'showing her up".
I don't think work status is relevant in me being the type of parent that I want to be.
PumpkinAngel
I have never known a child from any type of home who did not aspire to some type of career and expect to have one.
my kids loved going to their preschools and later, camps....They liked it as much as being home, but in different ways. I never thought of it as any sort of "competition" before.
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Sandi--Mommy to Ryan 7/24/07
"As for the "time trade-off", I'm just not seeing it....ds leaves for school at 6:25 am, sd leaves at 7:45, dd #1 leaves at 8:00 and dd #2 leaves at 8:20. Dh is here until 7:30. I leave at 6:00 and if ds comes down before then we have a few minutes to chat. I get home at about 4:00...Kids get home at 2:45, 3:00, 3:30 and 4:30...Then they have homework. WHAT time am I "missing"?"
Eileen, I was answering the OP with *MY* experience and the time trade off was in regards to *my specific family* and no where did I say you'd be missing anything.
"Now that they're older, they understand that if I WOH we'd have more money to do things, buy things, etc."
My two are at a really dicey age in regard to the time/money tradeoff. I'm waiting for one of them to ask me how each of their best friends' moms can afford to SAH.
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LOL my 6 year old wants "to be a lawyer because they get to sue people."
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Hi, I usually lurk here but I am a SAHM of two (a 2 yr old and a 1 yr old).
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