How the Kids View SAH and WOH

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How the Kids View SAH and WOH
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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 10:09am

Something I heard yesterday in reference to my decision to return to work: "Well, the good thing is you'll be showing your kids that it's okay for a mom to have a career."


This threw me. I've never felt that my children weren't proud of me no matter what

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 6:53am

actually, they all are in school.

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 6:58am
Oh, okay. I didn't realize Alyssa was in school. (except when she's not :)

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Thu, 08-07-2008 - 8:17am
Hey, I've been a lawyer for 20 years, but I still want to be a photographer.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 8:31am

my kids loevd preschools too and i'm thankful each one of them has had the opportunity to experience an mdo,preschool environment away from me before primary school.


that said,i don't agree in the,older kids (i understand you're only talking about your own but for sake of debate) understand the time trade off of a sahp being less $$ for things.

 

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 8:39am

I do not think of it that way either. I was just pointing out that not eveyrone can afford or has the flexibility with younger children for home dc, nannies or staggered work schedules.


I just think it is different juggling. It was a lot easier for me to sah when they were under 5 than it is now.

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Registered: 01-22-2006
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 8:40am
But, don't you think that has more to do with your mother's personality rather than her work status. I know for a fact that my mother did not like sah. She loved to work. But, I never knew that growing up. Looking back, I still do not see it. That is why I guess I never thought about sah or not growing up or the feeling of "one upping" my parents.
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Thu, 08-07-2008 - 8:46am

I've always WOH so it's all the boys know.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 9:44am
You seriously do not ever expect your kids to realize that they might have had more materially if you worked? Or is it that you don't think this will ever matter to them?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 9:45am
No, I don't think so. It may well have to do with MY personality though.
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Thu, 08-07-2008 - 10:05am

In fact, they'd probably PREFER that I work just so that they could have unsupervised internet surfing time, phone conversations, and unlimited access to the fridge


Contrary to popular opinion, parenst that work don't just attach a key around their kids necks and send them on their way.


I am inclined to think that my kids will be in a supervised afterschool program until they are too old to be in one. (after about 7th grade in our town, it gets harder to find those types of programs).

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