How the Kids View SAH and WOH

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Registered: 07-31-2008
How the Kids View SAH and WOH
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Wed, 08-06-2008 - 10:09am

Something I heard yesterday in reference to my decision to return to work: "Well, the good thing is you'll be showing your kids that it's okay for a mom to have a career."


This threw me. I've never felt that my children weren't proud of me no matter what

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Registered: 07-31-2008
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 10:05am

So you're saying that a SAH is like creamed corn?!? I mean, most logical people hate creamed corn--is that what you're implying?


Kidding! Felt like being uber-debatey.

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 10:12am

Well, some one must like it. Otherwise, they wouldn't make it and the grocery stores wouldn't be selling it. :)

CHris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Thu, 08-07-2008 - 10:16am

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Thu, 08-07-2008 - 10:26am

i won't speak for my kids but as their mother,i have never associated costs of things,values on things by what we can or can't afford.

 

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Thu, 08-07-2008 - 10:57am

I limit access to the internet and supervise the sites visited.


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 08-07-2008 - 11:00am
To me? Definitely.

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Thu, 08-07-2008 - 11:03am

"i've not raised my kids to understand that my sah means less,monetary wise for them.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 11:06am
I was not suggesting that "more" would necessarily be designer clothes. It could be many things. Apart from that, the actual question was whether the kids will really not make that connection ever, for example when they have to pay for their own college.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 11:06am

You're looking at it from the perspective of the second salary being pin money only, and you're not interested in paying for a big ticket item like college.


What about retirement?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 08-07-2008 - 11:08am
I always assumed that dd would get a truthful explanation. It might take a few turns, and different kinds of explanations, but I tried to avoid veering away from the truth just to make it easier for her to understand.

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