How long does it take at home to unde...

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How long does it take at home to unde...
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Sun, 09-09-2007 - 3:55pm

How long does it take at home to understand the SAHM's job?



  • No time off for maternity leave, weekends and holidays are enough
  • 4 weeks off for maternity leave
  • 2 months off for maternity leave
  • 3-4 months off for maternity leave
  • 6-9 months off for maternity leave
  • 1 year+ for maternity leave
  • If the mother knows she's going back to work at some point, she can't understand
  • Other


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Registered: 11-08-2006
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 6:35pm

i voted other....8 weeks off for maternity leave for each of 3 kids, weekends, holidays and vacations. all told, I'm HOME for 181 days per year. I'm a wohm, but have certainly figured out what it takes to be a sahm.

cArole

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 6:47pm
I put other because you are not understanding anyone sahm's job. You are understanding your own.
I get 3 weeks vacation time, 6 days sick, 3 days personal, 9 days holiday, half days and early days. Last year I took 5 weeks vacation time alone (I have alot of time banked). I don't see what the difference would be with those weeks off if I was a wohm or sahm. I would be doing the same thing on those days.
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 8:01pm

I don't think it can be measured in time. My friends who have taken even relatively long maternity leaves still make different choices than people who plan to be at home for the long haul. I don't mean that they don't "understand" SAHM- even a childless person can grasp what I do all day- just that they don't look at things the same way. I had one friend who took a full year off but never got overly involved at school or went out of her way to make SAHM friends because she always knew she was going back to work.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 8:58pm

Not too long IMO. But again, you won't understand anymore than what its like to be a SAHM for *you.* I SAH for about 14 months when my twins were born. I know what it was like to be at home with infant preemies, with young toddler twins, but not what its like to be a SAHM say with no help (I had a housekeeper and 15-20 hours a week of nanny help once they were 5 months old), or to SAH with say 3 or 4 kids, or what its like to SAH with a husband who travels 70% of the time or more (a friend of mine does that), etc. etc. etc.

If I SAH again with my new baby and the twins, it will be different still from what it was 3+ years ago for me.

MM

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 10:11pm

Good Point. Staying home now with 4 kids in school and 2 kids(almost 4 and 2) is much different then it was for me staying home with 3 kids 3 and under and 4 kids under 5!

Amy

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 10:40pm

I had one friend who took a full year off but never got overly involved at school or went out of her way to make SAHM friends because she always knew she was going back to work.


I don't understand this comment.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 12:07am
I get the impression from these boards that some neighborhoods are quite cliquish in that respect. I take it that yours isn't that way, and mine isn't either, so it's hard to relate.
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Registered: 01-12-2004
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 12:47am

Very well said. IMO, it is a mindset. SAH is a lifestyle.

Robin

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 8:47am

Mine is definately not that way.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 11:00am
You forgot to include the answer "why does it matter?" lol I guess for me, I really don't care if a working mom understands what it is like for me as a SAHM or why I made the choice I did.

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