How much daycare is too much?

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How much daycare is too much?
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Thu, 03-31-2005 - 11:26am

Did anyone see the Wall Street Journal today? An article on the "Personal Journal" page talks about two studies that are coming out -- one being the already referenced NICHD study -- that shows 45+ hours a week of day can do harm to a child. What I found interesting about it is that the NICHD study says *anything* other than mom care is other care!! What happened to Dad?

The other article, in the same section, is an article about how parents are outsourcing everything now, including potty training! The article states that parents will send a child to a batting coach instead of just playing catch in the backyard. Another service, that costs $60 an hour (!), will help teach your child how to ride a bike!

I don't have an online subscription to the Journal, so I can't post the stories here. Does anyone else have one?

mom_writer

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:34pm

"at least there is *one* parent around while the other works."


WRONG.

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:34pm
I would find it far worse to inform a child his mother is deathly ill because of her high blood pressure, obesity and high cholesterol because she gave up her exercise routine to play jacks with him.


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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:37pm

oh ok.....i can read it now

me: dh, i'm going to return to work so that you can step back in the career you have worked so hard to attain. we'll put all 3 kids in extended day and dc and we'll all be home by 5:30P tops so that we can have q time together as a family.

dh: why? things are fine now.

lol. the difference between a selfish act and an unselfish act is balance. he maintains a crazy schedule ~ yes, but at least it's not to the extent or burden on our children who have a parent that stays home.

edited to add.....please, pumpkinangel or others, share where the balance is when said dual parents work all day then head to the gym only to pick up mcdonalds on the way to satisfy dinner convenience for their children....please.




Edited 4/8/2005 4:39 pm ET ET by mom3texas
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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:39pm

Yes but do you accept that others might need to spend less time than you

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:42pm
i'm missing something.....whose mj
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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:42pm

It DOES burden your children to have a father who works such crazy hours.

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:42pm

Is it better than your life <> I don't know, I don't know your life and you don't know mine, but that wasn't the point of my post...the point was to show you that there are other options and we have specifically chosen one that neither of us has to work long late hours on a routine basis in order to both have family time and individual time.


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So what are you saying....you dh chooses a job that requires him to spend so much time working?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:43pm
Michael jackson

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:43pm
Michael Jackson--who is in trouble for baring children and touching them in bad, bad places.

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"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:44pm
Yeah, I think that 11 1/2 hours of othercare a day on a regular basis (3x a week is a regular basis in my mind) is not in the best interests of babies and young children, and if I had any choice at all in the matter, I wouldn't do it. If I felt like it was a case of "if I don't do this I will go insane," and there was absolutely no other way of maintaining my sanity, I'd do it. But before I do something on a regular basis that isn't in my children's best interests, I am going to try everything else I can think of.

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