How much daycare is too much?

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How much daycare is too much?
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Thu, 03-31-2005 - 11:26am

Did anyone see the Wall Street Journal today? An article on the "Personal Journal" page talks about two studies that are coming out -- one being the already referenced NICHD study -- that shows 45+ hours a week of day can do harm to a child. What I found interesting about it is that the NICHD study says *anything* other than mom care is other care!! What happened to Dad?

The other article, in the same section, is an article about how parents are outsourcing everything now, including potty training! The article states that parents will send a child to a batting coach instead of just playing catch in the backyard. Another service, that costs $60 an hour (!), will help teach your child how to ride a bike!

I don't have an online subscription to the Journal, so I can't post the stories here. Does anyone else have one?

mom_writer

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 4:58pm
But what you choose to ignore is that the satisfaction of that parent's need does not always have a negative net effect on the child. In fact, it usually has a net positive effect on the child. But to see that you'd have to look at the long-term situation, not the "in the moment" situation. You are choosing to ignore the possibility that the satisfaction of the parents' need satisfies other needs within the family at the same time.


Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 5:01pm

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Because working out is about an hour of time.....much less than working until 7 or 9pm at night.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 5:01pm

ewwwwww.....why am *i* compared to him?.......yuck.

thanks alot :(

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 5:01pm
lol
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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 5:04pm

So, since you have all the cards to make all the rules ...


What should a mother, who is part of a dual WOHP family or a single mom, do for exercise to maintain her health and weight?


With all due respect mom3texas .. .which isn't much right now



Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 5:04pm

Let's flip it around with a real life example.


DH had brain cancer. He worked out excessively and sometimes I resented it. I occansionally even yelled at him about his obsession. He did not spend as much time with the kids as I would have liked.


Every neurologist that examined him said he lived longer because of his physical health and his excellent conditioning due to exercise. So, if he had not have worked out, he would have died possibly two years before he did and definitily before Christmas (death date:12-27-03). We were given more time with him...quality time with him...because of his exercise. We were given one last Christmas with him.


My kids would, hands down, tell you they were glad Daddy lived longer even though they missed some bonding time.


Now, I know he was a male and the owner of a very nice penis, so his bond with the children does not matter as much as my time with the kids but I am glad he took time to exercise.


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 5:05pm

So, in your eyes it's fair for

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 5:10pm
oh i dunna savcal.....if you browse back a bit, mondomom had a multiple of choices. one seemed really fair imo.......don't let *my* stack of cards sway you lol.
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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 5:17pm

I didn't realize you were only concerned with mondo's situation or that anyone elses' remotely reflected hers.


Nice way to avoid the question though.



Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 5:43pm

i can't tell if the tone of your posts are real or seasoned with sarcasm pumpkinangel.

>>it's fair for your family that dh satisfies his need and want for a career....while leaving you with the bulk of the rest
is it really that black and white to you ~ his career, his needs, his selfish hours? my gosh....i married him for his very ambition, confidence, commitment. and i think our relationship strikes a fair balance because he does work and i sah. parenthood is spoken rather well here. i can't say i share the same observation from a dual perspective because of the lack of balance i do see.

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