How much daycare is too much?

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How much daycare is too much?
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Thu, 03-31-2005 - 11:26am

Did anyone see the Wall Street Journal today? An article on the "Personal Journal" page talks about two studies that are coming out -- one being the already referenced NICHD study -- that shows 45+ hours a week of day can do harm to a child. What I found interesting about it is that the NICHD study says *anything* other than mom care is other care!! What happened to Dad?

The other article, in the same section, is an article about how parents are outsourcing everything now, including potty training! The article states that parents will send a child to a batting coach instead of just playing catch in the backyard. Another service, that costs $60 an hour (!), will help teach your child how to ride a bike!

I don't have an online subscription to the Journal, so I can't post the stories here. Does anyone else have one?

mom_writer

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 04-08-2005 - 9:39pm

YES it does. Ecxersize is very important to our health. It is a requirement to health. Just as eating healthy and getting enough sleep is. Excersize is a *need* not a want.

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 9:40pm

Personally, I don't want to "bare" my children. I think they'd be embarrased if I did.

Nor do I want to bear any additional children at my age.

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 9:42pm

<> Really? Why is that?

<> Why? If they don't know any different, how would they know? Can you site references?

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 9:43pm

Very true and sorry to forget about you. Forgive me!


I also walked the track while Zak had soccer practices. Alex loved the stroller and it was a great time! We also rode bikes together. When I was working full time and just too tired to go to the gym, I got the Firm and started doing it in the morning. Alex would sometimes wake up and I would have to quit.


It can be done without using the nursery but it is hard when you have two small children. Also, I am horrible with working out at home. I answer the phone. I stop and get a drink. I look out the window. I do better in a class setting. I need the instructor to shoot me the glare of death to make me concentrate.


But, I still don't think it is selfish to use the gym nursery if you also work.

"It's like they are trying to make up lost

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 9:48pm
OMG.

Mondo

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 9:52pm

Why am I so slow?


Now I am laughing my head off too.


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 9:59pm

I would change your last sentence, but basically I agree with you, but will also say - it depends.

"I don't, however, believe daily cardio has to be limited to alone time and could probably be managed in some form accompanied by (or in the presence of) *some* small children."

I think it depends. I know that I benefit from my walks from a cardio standpoint, but also from a psychological standpoint. I get quite a bit from my time away from things. I have had my best ideas and been able to reduce stress. Excersizing with children around never reduced my stress level.

I tried many different ways to excersize with my kids. I never got the right balance or found the right excersize - when they were younger. This spring I will be trying to teach the tennis - we will see if this proves fruitful.

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 10:05pm

It only burdens the children if having one parent home means that the other parent is basically absent.

In our family, having a sahp is not a burden on the children, because it means that both parents get to spend more time with them. That is one of the reason we have a sahp. We would not have a sahp if it meant that the other parent would have to take a job that required 55+ hours a week.

I believe that children are best served if they have both parents involved in their lives - if at all possible.

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 10:41pm
That's OK, I should have known better than to open an email entitled "My Discovery". I now know all about The Extender.

Mondo

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Fri, 04-08-2005 - 10:59pm

Sarcasm?

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