How much daycare is too much?

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How much daycare is too much?
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Thu, 03-31-2005 - 11:26am

Did anyone see the Wall Street Journal today? An article on the "Personal Journal" page talks about two studies that are coming out -- one being the already referenced NICHD study -- that shows 45+ hours a week of day can do harm to a child. What I found interesting about it is that the NICHD study says *anything* other than mom care is other care!! What happened to Dad?

The other article, in the same section, is an article about how parents are outsourcing everything now, including potty training! The article states that parents will send a child to a batting coach instead of just playing catch in the backyard. Another service, that costs $60 an hour (!), will help teach your child how to ride a bike!

I don't have an online subscription to the Journal, so I can't post the stories here. Does anyone else have one?

mom_writer

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Sat, 04-09-2005 - 3:10pm

i am really sorry to hear that. i have lived many places and the ys have always had sound records including the y we frequent now. while sometimes funding can take a bite, the first to go are usually unnecessary programs (with little demand for them anyway) or staff that they can't continue to pay.

the only y i can think of that suffered and literally had to shut its doors was one of the ys in greater cincinnati. the area it was in and the additional clubs that were built around that became too much competition and too much to handle.......a shame because the ys reputation is so built on better values and directives than any of the latest trendy hot spots i've seen pop up.

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Sat, 04-09-2005 - 3:13pm
do you resent him for it?
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Sat, 04-09-2005 - 3:17pm

i'm sorry i touched on a personal nerve mondomom...there is plenty in this very thread that i could be taking very personal too including the argument that my own dh should cut back on his hours...don't justify why *you* can't workout or find time away from you kids. its others here who have asked me to lay the cards out and i have. it's still not good enough hence the continued debate on this dam* topic.

and let me add a *no* to your point about respect and my dh. irl, there are many times when i have to bite my tongue about his long days, his lack of time with the children but do my kids sense some disqualification of him as a father because of his lack of time? not by a long shot because i do my best to represent them with all of their needs.




Edited 4/9/2005 3:21 pm ET ET by mom3texas
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Sat, 04-09-2005 - 3:20pm
You and m3t then see things way differently (at least from what we have inferred from her posts). She disapproves even if the kids in question LOVE the gym daycare.


Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Sat, 04-09-2005 - 3:24pm

Excellent child care facilties, including a new one that opened in august (the one my kids go to), has hurt the Y. Their before/after program has suffered from that.


Also, the university recently opened a fancy new recreation center on campus that not only caters to the student population but also markets to the permanent resident population. That has had a huge effect.


And, being a college town, the Y just isn't as appealing to that demographic as the other choices in facilities are.


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Personally, I don't give a damn about the "values and directives" behind where I workout, unless they are related to working out.

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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Sat, 04-09-2005 - 3:26pm
i'm not denying that children LOVE the gyms nursery one bit.......but unless you think some nursery is an *only* blood line to a childs happiness, there is something wrong with the extended playtime at a place more than 8 hours imo....mom3texas who puts a time *limit* on the playground at mcdonalds for crying out loud!
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Sat, 04-09-2005 - 3:38pm

I resented his job.

Laura

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Sat, 04-09-2005 - 3:38pm

no comment.

mom3texas who was getting ready to argue the very popular fundamentals, families, values a y is made up over your bit of snarky comment about it.......let's just put it this way ~ i'm glad my monthly membership dues go to a place like the y over fluff that can't even answer your questions on membership, fees, programs over the phone. lol.

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Sat, 04-09-2005 - 3:41pm
so you did or did *not* resent your dear dad? my kids have fired some warranted arguments of why daddys hours are so late and crazy.....not once have they or would i ever encourage they resent daddy for it.
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Sat, 04-09-2005 - 4:16pm

<<mom3texas who puts a time *limit* on the playground at mcdonalds for crying out loud!>>


Hollie, who doesn't even let her kids step foot in a McD playground, or a McD, or even touch their food.







Edited 4/9/2005 4:22 pm ET ET by savcal_ok

Choose your friends by their character and your socks by their color.  Choosing your socks by their character makes no sense and choosing your friends by their color is unthinkable.

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