How much "extra help" do you need?
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|Thu, 08-21-2003 - 11:26am|
So, I was having dinner w/my SAHM friend last night and she was complaining to me about how they've had to let go of their dog walker b/c she was costing them too much money (almost 7K a year!) This friend also has: (1) a part time nanny (20-25 hours/week, also does personal assistant type stuff like grocery shopping, mailing packages, other errands), (2) a housecleaner, comes in a couple times a week, (3) gardener/lawn maintenance guy. I should also mention that her DH works fulltime and cooks every night (or they order in). The nanny also works weekends and one night a week so my friend and her DH can have a weekly "date night." She is a SAHM, volunteers at her DD's school, goes to play group w/her DS, but no other outside work.
My other friend who's a WOHM has a nanny also, who takes care of her 3 kids while she and her DH are at work. She has no other "extra help." Cleans her house herself, walks her dog herself, cooks, etc.
Both women are great moms and have really well behaved kids. My WOHM friend is actually a less stressed person than the SAHM friend, and she complains a lot less too!
So I wonder . . . how much "extra help" does one need? Is it however much you can afford? Does it reach a point where you feel like you're not pulling your weight b/c you've got so many others doing work for you? Although I'm envious of the amount of free time my SAHM friend has, I also don't know if I'd feel comfortable in her position. Honestly, I just wouldn't feel like I was pulling my weight around the house.
Any thoughts on this?