How much time in the work place to un...

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How much time in the work place to un...
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 3:59pm

How much time in the work place to understand the WOHM's job as a parent?

  • 4 weeks as a FTWOHM
  • 2-3 months as a FTWOHM
  • 4-6 months as a FTWOHM
  • 6-9 months as a FTWOHM
  • 9-12 months as a FTWOHM
  • 1 year+ as a FTWOHM
  • You can't understand it for someone else unless you have worked their job/career
  • Under 1 year as a PTWOHM
  • Over 1 year as a PTWOHM
  • Other

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 6:29pm

Other. there's no meaningful way to answer the question, as there are too many variables in any one person's situation to make a one-size-fits-all-or-most answer out of it. It depends on the person, the job, their family, the family's needs at that moment in time, the job, the boss, the job situation, the type of job most suited for the mom, and myriad other factors far too numerous to list here.

It think it's perfectly acceptable to simply accept any one person's decision at face value as being the best one for her at that moment in time under those circumstances. It's perfectly okay for someone else to take 3 days to decide FTWOH isn't for her and her family, even if that's not a choice I would have made and it's perfectly okay for her to say, "It wouldn't have worked for us."

Frankly polls like this, and its corollary on SAHM, are divisive and of no particular value to the debate.



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Sun, 09-09-2007 - 6:31pm

What you said.


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Sun, 09-09-2007 - 6:48pm
ITA with you.
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Sun, 09-09-2007 - 7:04pm

Depends on how fast you adopt a new routine. Some people will start working and take months to work up to a workable routine. Others will adjust right away. My answer isn't on the pick list. Maybe a couple of months after you make the adjustment. Once you've lived the routine for a few weeks, you'd know how life is structured. It's not rocket science. It's just balancing work and home.

However, I have to add that children's ages matter too. If you go to work when your kids are all over 3 you won't understand what it's like to work with an infant. You have to do it to understand it and it's differnt depending on children's ages. Unlike WOHM's who do what SAHM's do on top of a job, SAHM's don't do the job on top of what they do at home so they'd have little understanding going in.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 10:06pm
Yep. I agree.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 11:02am
Same comment as the other poll...why does it matter? I have no need to understand what it is like for a WOHM or why she made her choice.
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Mon, 09-10-2007 - 3:26pm
Same answer. It's a common theme running through most of the threads. I thought it would be interesting to see the numbers.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 3:31pm
Beats me. I have been doing the WOHM thing for about fifteen years and haven't a clue what it means to "understand" the job. I know that every time we have a new variable, we have to adjust all over again.