How valuable is childcare?
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How valuable is childcare?
| Fri, 08-21-2009 - 6:01am |
I'm mostly a lurker, but I have a question that I wanted to know opinions on.
Is there value to child care?
I'm talking about the day-to-day, hour-by-hour
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and that can be done either by a good sahm OR a good wohm + a good dc provider.
<< it means what she's learned from SAHM being home in those early years she's
anecdotal.
I feel that if a woman DOES assign monetary value to childcare and thinks she should be getting a six-figure income for it, then she should be willing to pay that amount also to her nanny, daycare providers, etc.
< If we (the USA) were to really take child welfare seriously then we would support extended maternity/paternity leave, provide good quality daycare to every child, and have parenting classes offered at every hospital along with childbirth classes. >
I agree, but here in the USA, this will never happen. Its a lost dream. Corporate America never has been, and never will be, family-friendly.
Most employers expect you to be at work even if your child is sick or dying. That is a fact. A FACT, not an opinion. I've seen many employers retaliate against a parent for taking time off for caring for a sick, even dying child. In most cases, employer could easily get a temp or contractor to come in and do the work. They are just too lazy or cheap to do this.
You don't see a difference in children? I've got 3, and though I will never leave any alone at age 12 for repeatable periods of time, because due to my own behavior at that age, 2 of my children are pretty trustworthy, and one will push the limits as a daredevil.
I had a sahm until age 14 and my mother was clueless to what teens were getting up to in hs. BTW - I went to an all-girls, parochial hs. There were lots of sex and drugs and rock and roll. My brother convinced my mom that the baggy of green stuff she found in his room was oregano that he got from a ridealong as student of day. She was also proud he was so into hothouse growing some weird green leafy plants in our basement.
The good news is that two of her children turned out just just fine as upstanding responsible members of the community. Unfortunately, one did not. I don't blame my mom, but her cluelessness didn't help my sister's hs drug addiction and subsequent death due to her addictions.
Why do you think that kids with working parents do not have routines? The idea that early "training" and right bringing up will mayhem-proof your kid in the teen years is a dangerous one, IMO. I do think that there are things you can do when kids are small that may lower the chances of mayhem a little, but first of all they have nothing to do with SAH vs WOH and secondly, at least IMO, kids need a lot of input and support in the teen years.
As others have pointed out as well, I also think that what a 2yo needs can much more easily be outsourced than what a 16yo needs.
it's a shame that roles get misunderstood.
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