How valuable is childcare?

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How valuable is childcare?
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Fri, 08-21-2009 - 6:01am

I'm mostly a lurker, but I have a question that I wanted to know opinions on.


Is there value to child care?


I'm talking about the day-to-day, hour-by-hour

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Fri, 08-21-2009 - 12:37pm

It's all relative to each child and each family and each dc. There is nothing intrinsic about dc. One child might thrive better in dc than at home where he is an only child. At dc, he gets the organized chaos of children near his own age. Another child needs the solitude she gets at home where she can retreat into her own bedroom when the world (and her family) gets too much for her. Where the routine can be gear toward her personal comfort level and the family follows her routine instead of the other was around. For other children, it wouldn't matter at all--at home or at dc.

Chris

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Fri, 08-21-2009 - 2:19pm

I think there certainly can be value to the children in daycare.

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Fri, 08-21-2009 - 3:09pm
Any positive interaction with a child is valuable.
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Fri, 08-21-2009 - 5:17pm

you raise a great point in it not mattering WHO raises your child but HOW.

 

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Sat, 08-22-2009 - 12:36pm

Nurturing and caring for a little developing person is valuable no matter who does it and when they do it.


But I must take issue with this statement of yours:


"I think that the value given to childcare changes as children grow older, but that actually infancy is the most important time to invest in children (their brains grow faster than any other period in their lives, the course of their development is mostly set by the age of 2, and they develop the foundation of their later personality by 5)"


There is no time when it is more important than any other to invest in a child. You can nurture, or mess up, a child starting at any age.

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Registered: 04-22-2009
Sat, 08-22-2009 - 2:02pm
I'm going to disagree just a bit.
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Sat, 08-22-2009 - 2:14pm
I agree that those years are crucial, but I also think that you really have to work at it for it to go wrong. Moreover, in the cases where it does go wrong, some kind of othercare might well have helped rather than have hindered.
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Sat, 08-22-2009 - 2:27pm

I think so too. A child doesn't need a sahm to get that stuff, but once that window is gone, it's very hard to fill in what has been missed.

I agree with ashmama that the teen years are also very important, but the foundation needs to be there.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Sat, 08-22-2009 - 3:41pm
I see what you're saying.
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Registered: 04-22-2009
Sat, 08-22-2009 - 3:46pm

i guess you could say that sd's mom "worked hard" at getting it wrong.

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