How would you respond?

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How would you respond?
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Sat, 01-26-2008 - 9:04pm

How would you respond if you were the teacher?


Recently, in my third grade class, we were having the "What do you want to be when you grow up?" conversation.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 01-27-2008 - 4:21pm

Right, but that isnt how she phrased it. Plus, some people end up being a sah for longer than the 18 years it takes to

Dj

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Sun, 01-27-2008 - 4:49pm

I have 3 two years apart. I would have been out of the workforce for 10 years if I waited form them to get

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 01-27-2008 - 5:15pm

Yep, for many people that works well. My friend I was talking about has always done shift work and swung between pt and ft for many years. She has now been with her job for 25 years and has the seniority to pull 9 weeks of vacation each summer, pick her shift and get tons of unpaid leave when she wants it. She never had to use daycare either, an expense she never wanted to deal with.


Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Sun, 01-27-2008 - 5:44pm
i didn't say she should kill a dream.

 

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Sun, 01-27-2008 - 6:01pm

I have an old book I filled out when I was young.

 

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Sun, 01-27-2008 - 6:10pm

ITA! One of my twin daughters wants to be an Astronaut. I am am totally on board with her and encouraging her to go for her dreams! They will lead you somewhere and you will be a happy person while pursuing them. I wanted to be an Olympic Track Athlete. I never made it but I did participate in track in college and had a great time. I placed at a National College Track Championship meet. I loved the pursuit even though I fell short of achieving the dream. My other twins wants to write books like J.K. Rowling and be a Veterinarian. My 3 yo wants to be a Dentist.


I hope all three of them are moms too. I certainly want to be a grandma

 

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Registered: 11-17-2003
Sun, 01-27-2008 - 6:23pm

I would say the same thing for each child, "Very good" or "sounds great". I wouldn't put down anything a child has to say about whatever they may want to be. It doesn't matter. I never did get the importance of what do you want to be when you grow up expecially in the younger years. That is just too much for some children to take in. Now I understand by the time they get into Highschool it would be nice to kinda have some idea which direction they might want to go, but even then if they don't know who cares. They will eventually figure it out.

It use to be quite common to hear that many many years ago like when I was growing up in the 60's and in the 50's when more Mothers were not in the working world. it is no wonder they want to be a Mommy. That is what they see their Mother doing as "a job". Nothing wrong with that.

I always wanted to be a Mommy and Teacher. I was a teacher first and then quit to be a Mommy and love it.

I can only hope my Daughter will say she wants to be a Mommy when she grows up because it will be then I know I have done something right.

Trish :)

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Sun, 01-27-2008 - 6:26pm

Obviously, this little girl doesn't seem to realize that there are years before kids and years after kids have moved out.

 

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Registered: 11-17-2003
Sun, 01-27-2008 - 6:35pm

Man I couldn't agree with you more. They are just kids. They are just starting out in this world and learning about all these things. They will change their minds a dozen times by the time they really have to decide what they want to do. There little kids for goodness sakes. Why are we so anxious for them to decide now? Why do Teachers ask these questions? I don't think it is appropriate at such a young age. Who in the heck cares. Let them be children and enjoy life. Learn about things that are important and will lead to a successful life in whatever that might be whether just being a Mommy or having a job outside the home. Some of the things they ask and expect out of our kids at school- crazy! Just goes to show you the mindset of a lot of people.

Now I understand being taken back expecially if you haven't grown up in the "June Cleaver" era where it is just a natural response for the little girls to say I want to be a Mommy. Since our economy has gotten to a point where it is so darn expensive to live, people want bigger and better for their children, not happy with just being average, and a million other reasons to have to work. Most people have to work to have extras and nothing wrong with that, but these children see that and to hear about one wanting to be a Mommy takes you back a bit like wow I forget there are still some stay at home Moms out there.

Trish :)

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Sun, 01-27-2008 - 6:38pm

IMO, if you tell a child who wantes to be a pro athlete that his chances aren't good then he may stop trying....I think of how much commraderie, sportsmanship, life lessons, friendships, and exercise he would miss out on trying.

              *Praying for my best friend, my Dad*


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