How young is too young?daycare?

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How young is too young?daycare?
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Tue, 12-02-2003 - 1:00am
If you have a career and you had a baby what age would you think is apropriate to send your child to daycare/dayhome after they were born?

I have a friend that is a dayhome provider, she has 10mnth old twins and she was provinding care for a 2yr old. Mom of the 2yr old just had a baby and she was back to work when baby was 4days old, in my friends care. It is only half days now, but she is soon going to be full time, the baby is almost 5wks. Thoughts?

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 10:50am

I'm not arguing that children NEED or REQUIRE substitute care. . .that's someone else's gig, not mine.

Virgo
 
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 10:56am
No, I'm not trying to convince people that bf is better, it simply IS better whether I point it out or not. But to answer you question, the reason I'm so keen on pointing out the benefits of SAH and exclusive bfing, is that the two go hand in hand when it comes to what is BEST for children. In other words, SAH promotes exclusive bfing and exclusive bfing promotes SAH. So, that's my agenda, what's to understand. It seems fairly cut and dried to me LOL.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:02am
Oh really LOL? Then how do you explain these statements?

Children that were breastfed for more than 40 days were less likely to develop cavities than those who were breastfed for a shorter time, the researchers found. Because of that, the researchers suggest that breastmilk may contain antibodies that inhibit the bacteria that causes tooth decay

A separate study published in the journal "Pediatric Dentistry" in the spring of 1999 concluded that human breast milk is not cariogenic, meaning it does not cause dental caries

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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:05am
So now, both of my boys are weaned.

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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:14am
the community you lived in was within commuting distance of the college or university that your dd attended, but had only one dcc and not a single good-quality home dc, much less one that wasn't directly affiliated with the dcc or operated by anyone who whatsoever cared about the children she took in? what are the odds?

i never doubt it when anyone says that she couldn't afford or couldn't get past the waiting list for the good dc in her area, or that she didn't see any good dc when she admits that she didn't make much of an effort to find it. but i find it *really* hard to believe that anyplace within commuting distance of a major industry--and that would include a college or university--would be served by *nothing* but kennels. kennels can be found just about everywhere, but *nothing but* kennels pretty much requires no job/eduation market within commuting distance that would inherently create demand for something better. the fact that there was a market where you lived for the kind of place you describe doesn't explain away the fact that it is impossible to believe that the faculty and staff at the college or university that your dd attended didn't create demand for and use a much higher quality of care than you've described as your only options.

as far as i can tell, my post was deleted as part of deleting one of your or the op's posts. i didn't call you stupid, i said that i'd never seen anyone so well straddle the line between shrill and stupid. i didn't call you an idiot, i said you were making yourself look like an idiot in your effort to be mean.

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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:20am
"Heaven forbid something would happen to your dh and you would have to *gasp* leave your child for a few hours a week in aftercare, *eek*."

No, we are well prepared in the event something should happen to my dh. You have heard of life insurance haven't you? BTW, I just wanted to point out that in the event of a tragedy wouldn't children need the surviving parent more rather than less. I only bring this up because we lost a very dear friend a year ago this month. He was 34 years old and his wife is a SAHM to 2 special needs children (one with cp and one with down's) as well as an infant that was only 7 months old when her father died. How exactly would it benefit her children to suddenly have to return to work? Luckily, they were well prepared as well, and she wasn't forced to leave her children at a time when they truely needed her.

I am very sorry to hear about your friend, however it is a fact of life that we must make preparations for the future in the event that a tragedy such as this were to occur. Again, I'm very sorry to hear about your friend. I can't imagine what it would be like to lose my dh, but I can tell you in all honesty, that finances would be the least of my worries.

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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:21am
Meaning, of course, only exclusive bf straight from the breast? Exclusive breasfeeding, ie without using formula, is perfectly compatible with being a WOHM. One friend of mine managed very nicely and was very motivated to do it because of allergies that ran in her family. As for exclusive bf going hand in hand with SAH...love to see the statistics on that one. I have a sneaking suspicion that SAHMs are no more likely to exclusively bf than WOHMs.

Laura


Edited 12/12/2003 11:25:14 AM ET by laura_w2

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:26am

Two questions:


Did you read the source cited by tichmich (if I'm not mistaken) that said that breastmilk wasn't AS cariogenic (and I know what that means. . .I've taught classes to child care providers on I/T oral health) as formula, but not that it WASN'T cariogenic?


Do you know what a lurking variable is?


Virgo
 
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:27am
Since when is SCHOOL considered substitute care LOL? BTW, my dd is not in private school (however she did go to private school for kindergarten). Also, I didn't put my child in school because "I didn't want to do it myself". I put her in school because I can't be other children for her. Remember, I'm the one who sends my dd to school for purely "social" reasons?

BTW, could you explain this statement? I'm having a hard time making any sense of it?

"Did you FAIL to plan ahead to make sure she had the socialization she needed, therefore not REQUIRING the need for substitute care?"

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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:28am
Actually, I was the one who made that statement and I was being sarcastic. The 30+ caregivers include every teacher my children have ever had (that would be 27 out of the 30 or so). I mean right now, my dd has 8 different teachers since she takes 8 different classes in HS. Next year you can add another 8 to the list. My point is that our kids are "being cared for" in some sense my dozens of different people throughout their childhood. If you think that you are going to be the one and only caregiver to your child until she reaches 18, you are either deluded or have some issues.

Susan

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