How young is too young?daycare?

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How young is too young?daycare?
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Tue, 12-02-2003 - 1:00am
If you have a career and you had a baby what age would you think is apropriate to send your child to daycare/dayhome after they were born?

I have a friend that is a dayhome provider, she has 10mnth old twins and she was provinding care for a 2yr old. Mom of the 2yr old just had a baby and she was back to work when baby was 4days old, in my friends care. It is only half days now, but she is soon going to be full time, the baby is almost 5wks. Thoughts?

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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:31am
<> What other controls were in place? What type of family medical history was studied? What type of home environment were the breast fed vs. bottle fed babies in? What type of diet did each of the mothers have? And the word "may" and "suggest" are inconclusive. If you read my post, scientific conclusive *evidence* does not exist. Keep trying.

I'll keep believing my professional dentist DH who has been treating children for 20 years rather than a stranger on an internet board who reads articles that support her agenda.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:34am
You're right. I do not want to teach my child calculus and physics. So I send her to school and use the dreaded substitute care because I DO NOT WANT TO DO IT MYSELF. Well, that and that I am not equipped to teach those subjects, LOL.

Susan


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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:36am
I agree that medically and scientifically, breast milk has proven to be more nutritious than formula. However I disagree that SAH is *best* for all. That is YOUR OPINION. It is best for YOU. It would NOT be best for our family.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:37am
"I am so glad I never limited my children's socialization to *just* family members".

Me too LOL!!! My child "socializes" with a large group of diverse people including family and non-family members, however I DID limit "caregiving" to *just* family members. But then again, I don't see "socializing" and "caregiving" as the same thing. For example, I don't send my child to school for "caregiving", I send her to school for "socializing". See the difference?

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:40am
" put her in school because I can't be other children for her. Remember, I'm the one who sends my dd to school for purely "social" reasons? "

Really? You can't manage to provide your child with adequate social experiences and make sure that she has other children around her without sending her to school? Strange, I know plenty of people manage that and more while homeschooling their children. Any particular reason why this has proved to be too much for you to manage?


Laura

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:46am
By breastfed, do you mean exclusively bf without the use of bottles? Also how long did you bf him? You didn't say in your post. Just curious?
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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:46am
Actually, I still don't get your seperation of school and caregiving. My son's teachers spend a lot of their time teaching the children, but they are also responsible for helping them get lunch, making sure they eat well enough, making sure that they take a proper shower after gym class, kissing owies and hugging a sad/upset child...in general making sure that a child is happy, healthy, well-fed and feeling good at school: in other words, caregiving. I would be shocked beyond words if ds's teachers didn't feel like caregivers as well as teachers. Just because you send your child to school for "socialization" doesn't mean that she is not receiving "caregiving" as well. The only difference seems to me to be that you have a lot more time on your hands for yourself while your child is in the hands of another caregiver (and for the same amount of time as mine...)

Laura

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Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:48am
First of all none of my posts were deleted, and as far as I can tell, yours was the only one on this thread that was.

Secondly, the university was an hour's commute and there more than likely was better quality care there. I was not going to drive an hour to place my infant in a dayhome or dc, drive an hour back to work and another 2 hours driving at the end of the day. Not to mention the fact that I'd not be able to continue to nurse him throughout the day. We lived in a suburb of the city. We have since moved - to another suburb, again there is one dc in this community - and it too is substandard.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:49am
So then you would be one of the "DON'T WANT TO DO IT THEMSLEVES" crowd right?
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Registered: 10-18-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 11:51am

Fairly cut and dried, my ass.


<<it simply IS better whether I point it out or not>>


Nope. Not for every mother and every child. Just one example -- ds had a severe intolerance to dairyproteins. My body does not break down milk proteins. Therefore, any dairy protein in my breast milk caused him severe pain and discomfort. He was much healthier and happier on formula.


<<the reason I'm so keen on pointing out the benefits of SAH and exclusive bfing, is that the two go hand in hand>>


Yeah. Tell that to the thousands of SAHMs who formula feed or to the thousands of WOHMs who exclusively breastfeed.


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