How young is too young?daycare?

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Registered: 10-07-2003
How young is too young?daycare?
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Tue, 12-02-2003 - 1:00am
If you have a career and you had a baby what age would you think is apropriate to send your child to daycare/dayhome after they were born?

I have a friend that is a dayhome provider, she has 10mnth old twins and she was provinding care for a 2yr old. Mom of the 2yr old just had a baby and she was back to work when baby was 4days old, in my friends care. It is only half days now, but she is soon going to be full time, the baby is almost 5wks. Thoughts?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 12:37pm

Yes you are right...most likely working would be the farthest thing from my mind and my friends as well and we are/were prepared financially, but not everyone is so lucky.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-02-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 12:43pm
Sigh... it really doesn't matter if you believe me or not LOL. I don't know where you live or what dc standards are where you live, but trust me they are not very high here. Yes, there was other industry, gas and oil primarily, and no it was not a slum. There may even have been a couple of good dayhomes. Certainly there were parents who believed they had found good placements for their children. *I* was not able to find one, although admittedly I didn't try given my awareness of the standards and of the poor quality of many, it was NOT worth the risk to me since *I* did not *have* to work. Actually, now that I think back there was one home that I would have felt comfortable with. The provider was the wife of one of my colleagues. She was always full. Most of the residents commute to the city to work. There is a social service agency in the community and that is where I worked. Many of the residents who commuted to the city, found dc in the city - makes sense doesn't it?
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 12:49pm
"My children have their father and I, AS WELL AS caregivers with long term vested interests in them."

Aren't you the one that said your ds has had 6 caregivers in 3.5 years? Is this what you mean by "long term vested interest"? Does you ds even remember all of his caregivers? Doesn't "long term vested interest" require an ongoing, continuous relationship? BTW, I may be thinking of someone else, if so please disregard the particulars LOL.

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 1:00pm

He was exclusively bf for nine weeks (still longer than either of his sisters combined) and on breastmilk exclusively for six months.


I'll also note that his oldest sister was breastfed exclusively for six weeks and his middle sister for 2 weeks.

Virgo
 
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 1:02pm
By exclusive bfing I mean no formula AND no bottles, which means no stored breastmilk in bottles. BTW, how do you think that a WOHM would be able to feed her child on demand during the day if she is at work?

Also, your "sneaking suspicion" is probably right in that there is only a small minority of women who in fact "exclusively bf" their children (again meaning no formula AND no bottles). But surely you can acknowlegde that SAH would in fact make it easier to exclusively bf than would WOH?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 1:05pm

Why would you ASSume that if the day to day caregiving is no longer happening, that the relationship no longer exists?


We are going to the memorial service for the husband of my boys' first caregiver tomorrow.

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 1:06pm
Hmmm, is this the quote you are misquoting?

"A separate study published in the journal "Pediatric Dentistry" in the spring of 1999 concluded that human breast milk is not cariogenic, meaning it does not cause dental caries."

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 1:06pm

You are mistaken.

Virgo
 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 1:08pm

So again, no break for Mom.

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Registered: 09-25-2003
Fri, 12-12-2003 - 1:08pm
I didn't misquoute anything because I didn't quote anything. . .I asked you if you read the article submitted by tichmich and if you know what a lurking variable is.
Virgo
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