How young is too young?daycare?
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How young is too young?daycare?
| Tue, 12-02-2003 - 1:00am |
If you have a career and you had a baby what age would you think is apropriate to send your child to daycare/dayhome after they were born?
I have a friend that is a dayhome provider, she has 10mnth old twins and she was provinding care for a 2yr old. Mom of the 2yr old just had a baby and she was back to work when baby was 4days old, in my friends care. It is only half days now, but she is soon going to be full time, the baby is almost 5wks. Thoughts?

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Now I have the explanation for all of the increased violence, drugs, problems you listed earlier: it has nothing to do with SAH/WOH and everything to do with lack of caregiving in the schools. Who is there to make sure that bullying doesn't happen? Oh, that's right "by the time a child reaches school age they are fairly independent and don't require much in terms of "caregiving" especially in a school setting when their friends are around. " I certainly begin to comprehend better why Swedish teenagers are so very different: they are still cared for and cared about by their teachers, in spite of being old enough to go to school. At ds's school, teachers sit in the dining room with their pupils and eat the same lunch (hot lunch, very nutritious), they watch the children at recess, they listen to the children when they are upset and try to comfort them, they take bullying seriously and work at both proactive (by keeping a close eye on the children and running several anti-bullying programs) and reactive. I call this caregiving, what would you call it?
Laura
eileen
Did friends or family offer to come over and help sometimes? It must have been extra difficult if she didn't have help like that at least SOMETIMES. When dd was born, my mom stayed with us for a week and did all the cooking. Having friend or family help with little things like that, or a touch of babysitting here and there, is invaluable. If she didn't have that help, my heart goes out to her even more.
HOWEVER, if friends and family offered a hand and she turned them down on principle (the principle that one ought to be able to do it by oneself), then she is a martyr and I never have any respect for martyrs, no mattr how noble their cause seems. Please tell me that by "no help" you actually meant either "no paid help, too expensive" or "literally no help because no friends and family were available.
eileen
I belong to a support group for families with children like alyssa. some have help, some don't. some sah, some woh. some have family support, some do not. After being in the support group for a little while you learn to understand and empathize with others and the decisions that they make for THEIR family -- even though those decisions may be different or "strange" to you. It is sad that that is just not within your capacity.
I need help for lots of reasons. I'm happy to share with the rest of the board who i'm sure can actually understand and empathize with them. Personally, i hope you just "keep your fingers quiet" and not respond at all.
I have help because alyssa's care takes alot of time. when she's awake i have to be right next to her ALL the time. i can't go to the bathroom without wheeling her chair next to it. i can't walk 2 steps away to start lunch or dinner without her wailing. there are places that are not wheelchair friendly that we can't take her too. there are places that are too loud for her (she gets scared). i'm not able to leave her to go into the kitchen to help andrew with his homework. why should she have to miss her nap to go to the soccer field (where she cries because all the yelling and cheering scares her)? why should her siblings not be able to see the latest disney movie because the theater is too scary for her? Why should i deny my son and daughter these opportunities just because their sister can't participate? do you realize that within 1-5 years, she will probably pass away? we've made it a point that andrew and jenna have some sense of the "core" family of the 4 of us because the fact is, within a few short years, we will have to learn to live without her (and no, i don't have any idea how i'll handle that).
i think your viewpoint is so incredibly arrogant and ignorant. i hope if your friend ever needs help she seeks it out - and i hope you have never shared how you feel about those that need help. because that would be so incredibly insulting and insensitive (but par for the course, judging by what you post here) and just plain downright NASTY.
maybe you just should stop talking about things which you clearly know NOTHING about.
eileen
My dd is only in preschool, so the caregiving role ois fairly prominent. But when she's studying calculus in highschool, the calculus teacher is just there to teach calculus. The teachers are caregivers only in the VERY loosest sense that the teacher must make sure that all students behave during class.
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