"I just don't want to work"

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Registered: 09-13-2007
"I just don't want to work"
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:06pm

Hi all... I'm new to the board and I am curious.


I am in my mid twenties, unmarried, no children. I work in an extremely competitive field with many other women my age. Many of us are making six figures and the job is very stressful. We all have a great work ethic, but sometimes when the stress gets really bad, I'll often hear the girls (never the guys) saying things like "Arrgghh... I'm so sick of work. I just want to marry a rich man, have kids, stay home and NOT WORK."....... I was raised by two working parents (two very loving, caring hardworking parents). My mother was very successful in her career, and I feel that when I get married, I will (like my mom) continue to work and raise children at the same time (my mom was definitely "super mom" ---she did it all and was great!)...... My main question: many of the women in my work stay in the position for about 5-7 years and then leave.....the funny thing is...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 10:41am
I disagree.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 10:42am
If you find out, let me know.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 10:46am

"How is what you're describing not the really just eminent domain being perverted to profit the wealthy at the expense of the less well off?"


It's government action (or rather, inaction) and not market forces that make the poor elderly sell?


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Registered: 08-29-2002
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 11:01am
She was forced to move far away from her family (parents and children) in order to find affordable housing. People being forced to move from their homes for tax reasons beyond their control is not seen as a desirable outcome in Sweden. Hence the changes in the structure for property taxes.
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Registered: 07-29-2004
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 11:25am
I'm coming into this late, and I'm sure a million women have said this already. But if you don't want to work, DON'T have children. I work harder now than I did when I worked in the workplace. It's a myth that SAHM don't work, I knew this ahead of time because I knew plenty of SAHMs before I had kids. SAHMs don't make money and that's what people base their opinions on the VERY hard job that they do. As if somehow we don't contribute anything because we don't pull in money. Personally, I think people are worth more than the money they make. There's more value in people than that.
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 11:37am

I don't think that, within this debate, anyone's claimed that SAHM's don't work.


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Registered: 10-02-2007
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 11:43am
I asked two naturopathic physicians, and did a lot of my own research and concluded that fluoridated water was not for us.
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Registered: 07-29-2004
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 11:48am

The original poster that I was replying to specifically said: "Has the thought ever crossed anyone else's mind that maybe some stay-at-home mom's real motive behind staying at home is that they don't want to work anymore?"

I did also state that I came in late, and therefore I haven't read the rest but wanted to respond to her.

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Registered: 07-29-2004
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 11:53am

"and again....sentiments like these are usually bandied about by people for whom money isn't a real issue."

Or by people who realise there's more to life. We are not rich, but lucky enough to be able to cut things out and live off DH's income. I have a friend who had to move into a trailer home (nothing wrong with that but something she hates) in order to stay home with her children one of which is special needs.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 11:58am
I'm not rich by any means-- I'm a single mom working for a nonprofit and also supporting a mom in assisted living -I recently picked up a 2nd job. i think and worry about money every single day --

 

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