"I just don't want to work"

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Registered: 09-13-2007
"I just don't want to work"
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:06pm

Hi all... I'm new to the board and I am curious.


I am in my mid twenties, unmarried, no children. I work in an extremely competitive field with many other women my age. Many of us are making six figures and the job is very stressful. We all have a great work ethic, but sometimes when the stress gets really bad, I'll often hear the girls (never the guys) saying things like "Arrgghh... I'm so sick of work. I just want to marry a rich man, have kids, stay home and NOT WORK."....... I was raised by two working parents (two very loving, caring hardworking parents). My mother was very successful in her career, and I feel that when I get married, I will (like my mom) continue to work and raise children at the same time (my mom was definitely "super mom" ---she did it all and was great!)...... My main question: many of the women in my work stay in the position for about 5-7 years and then leave.....the funny thing is...

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Registered: 08-29-2002
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 1:39pm

It's a percentage of the gain (20%, I think, to be raised to 30%). However, if the money is rolled over into new housing within a year, the tax payment for can be deferred (until death, if I recall correctly, after which it will be collected from the estate).

eta: Any and all work or renovations done on the house (including all labor and materials costs) are deducted from the gain before the tax is calculated.




Edited 10/29/2007 1:40 pm ET by laura_w2
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Mon, 10-29-2007 - 2:08pm
I don't feel that i have sacrificed time. I feel that I have a nice balance of work vs. time with my kids.
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Mon, 10-29-2007 - 2:15pm

More power to you.

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 2:27pm
love your comment about a car payment..it's been about three years since we've had a car payment and counting.

 

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Mon, 10-29-2007 - 2:36pm
I have about 18 months left on my jeep -- (that was my one big indulgence when I got divorced, I got rid of the god awful intrepid that my ex h had picked out and bought a bitchin bright red jeep liberty)

 

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Registered: 07-29-2004
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 3:02pm
Well, I certainly never go to the bathroom alone!! ;)
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Mon, 10-29-2007 - 3:10pm
We have both a 401K and an IRA. But even so, it's not like I'll have children in my house for the rest of my life, or at least not at the age where they need the amount of energy and one-on-one care that they do now. However, our retirement is set better than some families I know that have two working parents with loads of "stuff".
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Mon, 10-29-2007 - 3:19pm
The only time in my life we have ever had a car payment was the year they were giving 0.9% financing and it didn't make sense to take any money out of the bank to pay cash for a car. I don't see the point of having car payments if you don't need to. My car now has close to a 100,000 miles on it and I am starting to put aside money every month specifically earmarked for a new car so that when the old car dies -- hopefully not for another two years -- we can get a new one without cutting into our "regular" savings.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 3:23pm

"But even so, it's not like I'll have children in my house for the rest of my life, or at least not at the age where they need the amount of energy and one-on-one care that they do now."


This is why everyone's lives and perspectives are different.

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Registered: 07-29-2004
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 3:23pm
You may not see it as a sacrifice, just like I don't see not buying $500 pair of shoes as a sacrifice, but anytime you give up something to do something else it's a sacrifice. Just one you're willing to make. If I choose to go out to dinner with my DH one night alone I make several sacrifices, first the money to eat dinner and get a babysitter and secondly I sacrfice what COULD have been a family night together. But considering that I get a family night just about EVERY night and we may have a little extra cash on hand to go out (actually right now we have a GC to go to a restaurant) then I'm perfectly willing and able to make that sacrifice. See? I'm not sure why you seem offended by the thought that you are sacrficing time? Unless somehow you managed to figure out a way to WOH AND have your kids around (which is possible, but difficult). I sacrifice a second income and with the more children I have the more time I sacrifice with each individual child. It's not like making any particular sacrifice is somehow this horrible thing that equates into you being a horrible mother/wife/person/etc. This may be a problem with *your* conotation *you* are putting onto the word when none is implied, or even thought of, by *me*.

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