"I just don't want to work"

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Registered: 09-13-2007
"I just don't want to work"
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:06pm

Hi all... I'm new to the board and I am curious.


I am in my mid twenties, unmarried, no children. I work in an extremely competitive field with many other women my age. Many of us are making six figures and the job is very stressful. We all have a great work ethic, but sometimes when the stress gets really bad, I'll often hear the girls (never the guys) saying things like "Arrgghh... I'm so sick of work. I just want to marry a rich man, have kids, stay home and NOT WORK."....... I was raised by two working parents (two very loving, caring hardworking parents). My mother was very successful in her career, and I feel that when I get married, I will (like my mom) continue to work and raise children at the same time (my mom was definitely "super mom" ---she did it all and was great!)...... My main question: many of the women in my work stay in the position for about 5-7 years and then leave.....the funny thing is...

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 4:30pm

fine... i'm too tired to get into this any more... I was up watching the sox last night and I've plum run out of steam.


but if you're going to be a part of this board which I hope you are you should know in advance that I live for sarcasm and if I made any jokes about sewing dressed out of curtains it was to be sarcastic....

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 07-29-2004
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 4:47pm

"Oh, I was wrong - my other axe to grind is when SAHPs approach the SAH/WOH decision completely as a financial one, not considering that some parents really love to WOH and have lots of education and experience in their fields. Some SAHPs show no acknowledgement that WOH is about more than the bottom line."

Absolutely, as I said before, if I still lived where I could do the work I used to I would still be working, but I would also have been lucky enough to bring my child to work with me. It does go both ways though. Some ASSUME that since you have an education that you MUST work. I personally view it that my education (especially since I used to do behavioral research) makesme very well qualified to raise and educate my children. Strangely I know lots of SAHMs who wrestle with this. Even my midwife, who obviously works, considers herself a SAHM and sometimes wonders if she shouldn't do more.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 5:00pm

Thank you for saying all of that.


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Registered: 09-05-2007
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 5:44pm
Grandfathered in? Prop 13 applies to everyone. (Residentially. It does not apply to commercial properties.)
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Registered: 09-05-2007
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 5:49pm

>>You're all better off with Prop 13? You speak for all Ca residents? <<

Not any more than you do when you say we are all worse off. But yes, I am only speaking of my opinion.

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I believe that the performance of the schools here is wholly unrelated to property taxes. Different topic, that we probably disagree on as well, but it is unnecessary to get into it here.

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Therefore, it's not happening? Ok...<<

I didn't conclude that. I just can't comment on it because it is not something I have noticed happening.

>I'm done. You like Prop 13 and you live in Ca, I don't. I will continue to work on my town's budget committee to keep taxes affordable and fair. As long as I have a say, it will not be an acquisition-based system.<<

Agree to disagree then. :)

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2007
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 6:02pm
Egg-sactly. :) Thanks for getting into what I didn't feel like getting into!
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 6:17pm

that's the other poster. I generally spend between $250 and $300 per week.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-08-2006
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 6:20pm

different energies, different amounts....homework overseeing, transporting back and forth to religious school, sports activities and music lessons, attending parent conferences, PPT

Avatar for mom34101
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 6:21pm

I don't have much sympathy for the couple in their 20s who can't afford to live in Haight-Ashbury, no.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Mon, 10-29-2007 - 6:24pm

PB, you get the award for most creative argument.

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