"I just don't want to work"

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Registered: 09-13-2007
"I just don't want to work"
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:06pm

Hi all... I'm new to the board and I am curious.


I am in my mid twenties, unmarried, no children. I work in an extremely competitive field with many other women my age. Many of us are making six figures and the job is very stressful. We all have a great work ethic, but sometimes when the stress gets really bad, I'll often hear the girls (never the guys) saying things like "Arrgghh... I'm so sick of work. I just want to marry a rich man, have kids, stay home and NOT WORK."....... I was raised by two working parents (two very loving, caring hardworking parents). My mother was very successful in her career, and I feel that when I get married, I will (like my mom) continue to work and raise children at the same time (my mom was definitely "super mom" ---she did it all and was great!)...... My main question: many of the women in my work stay in the position for about 5-7 years and then leave.....the funny thing is...

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 9:52am
I am not buying that either.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 10:35am

"Some ASSUME that since you have an education that you MUST work. I personally view it that my education (especially since I used to do behavioral research) makesme very well qualified to raise and educate my children."


Why do you ASSume that as a full time WOHM, I'm not "raising and educating my children"?


And yes, I've invested many years and much effort and money into my education - it would be foolish in my particular case not to WOH.


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Registered: 01-05-2000
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 10:35am

Hey, I'm a woh/wahm with a 4th grader and I still can't go to the bathroom alone at home. I swear, I could be in the next state and that boy will still be talking at me.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 10-02-2007
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 10:39am
My family spends about $150 a week for the four of us. We eat almost 100% organic, and take advantage of
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 10:41am

Now that Angela and her friends are gone, I've gotten what I spend at the grocery store down to $60 a week and frequently lower than that. However, Dylan is only 9. I live in fear of what I'll have to spend when he hits 13. The year my brother became 13, the last of us 3 girls moved out. Mom said that at that time, when the family went from 6 to 3 people, her food bill went up.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 10:44am

>(which BTW, I am a sewer and you CAN'T make clothes for cheaper than you can buy them now adays, I only make things because I enjoy sewing). <

Amen to that. One of the reasons why I'll continue to woh. It's much better to get paid for sewing what I love than to bankrupt the family by doing so. I'm a dressmaker by trade and avocation. I work in a bridal shop doing alterations part time. And work ft at home doing historical clothing for reenactors. With alterations on the side.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 10:47am

>I live for sarcasm and if I made any jokes about sewing dressed out of curtains it was to be sarcastic....<

However true the statement might be. Continue to quote movie/theater lines. I love reading the references.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 10:48am
Prop 13 doesn't really help brand new homeowners.

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 10:49am

cyber hug.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 10-02-2007
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 10:51am
When I stayed home with my kids, I NEVER EVER got to take a bathroom break in a leisurely fashion (I was always rushed, with one ear cocked to hear the inevitable choke, crash, bang, drawing on wall, door opening, etc). Coffee break? I don't believe I sat down ONCE during my time at home. It was INSANE, but that may be because I have an EXTREMELY high maintenance son who can't be left alone for a second.....Sigh......I am much happier back at work (he is in kindergarden and loves it). God bless all you mamas that stay at home. I got through the early years with them at home, but to be honest, I hated it (if both my children were like my daughter, I might have enjoyed it, though I am sure that I would have been just as exhausted, but probably not as stressed). It all depends on the kids you have, the skills you bring, the support you have, your desire to be a good parent, and your personality. My son and I just clash, and being with him is exhausting. And he is only 5! God bless us all......

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