"I just don't want to work"

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Registered: 09-13-2007
"I just don't want to work"
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:06pm

Hi all... I'm new to the board and I am curious.


I am in my mid twenties, unmarried, no children. I work in an extremely competitive field with many other women my age. Many of us are making six figures and the job is very stressful. We all have a great work ethic, but sometimes when the stress gets really bad, I'll often hear the girls (never the guys) saying things like "Arrgghh... I'm so sick of work. I just want to marry a rich man, have kids, stay home and NOT WORK."....... I was raised by two working parents (two very loving, caring hardworking parents). My mother was very successful in her career, and I feel that when I get married, I will (like my mom) continue to work and raise children at the same time (my mom was definitely "super mom" ---she did it all and was great!)...... My main question: many of the women in my work stay in the position for about 5-7 years and then leave.....the funny thing is...

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 2:26pm

Well, you are lucky to have found such a low cost co-op.

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Registered: 07-29-2004
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 2:37pm
I'm sorry, I could post my inventory for you if you'd like! But yes, I buy produce and meat. I buy produce that is on sale for 50% off or more if it is freezable or stored safely in some other way, otherwise I buy what they have on sale in the produce aisle and plan our meals accordingly once I get home. Most people plan meals then make a grocery list, we do the opposite, that in and of itself can make an impact on your budget as well. Just look over the flyer that comes to you in the mail on Tues. or Wed. or in the Sun. paper and see what's on sale before planning.
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Registered: 10-02-2007
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 2:41pm

Hang in there Jettibocline! Some kids have a harder time with transitions. I remember when my daughter was just a baby and my son was about three. When we would go to a park (which we did almost every day so that he could burn his energy), he would freak out when it was time to leave (even though I would begin warning him about 10 minutes before that we would be leaving in x minutes). When I picked up my daughter to go, he would run away, often into the parking lot or into traffic. It was very hard to chase after him with a little baby in tow. Often I would have to walk up next to him right when we were to leave and grab his hand and tell him it was time to leave. This would result in him doing the dead drop (folding his legs) and grabbing onto anything in site. I am sure I was always a scene dragging my son behind me in the grass/dirt by the arm to the car. There were times that I would get so sick of it I would grab his ear and walk

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 2:41pm

So, your earlier statement that you only buy things 50% off or more was not correct.

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 2:49pm
I think we have all been there.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 2:56pm
Ditto. Back when I was really broke, I tried to shop with the coupons and specials, but they were almost invariably for already completely overpriced cleaning products OR for things like Kraft slices, juice DRINKS (i.e. sugar water) and processed crap. Very rarely was anything edible on sale.
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Registered: 10-02-2007
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 3:00pm
Thanks, jca2004. I would have lost my mind long ago without the internet as well (and fortunately I don't like the taste of alcohol or I would probably be a lush by now!! I actually forced myself to drink a beer one day because I was just so desperately absolutely stressed out and couldn't even finish the whole bottle LOL). Most of my local friends either have easy kids (yes, they do exist), lots of support, or maybe aren't as reactive to their kids as I am to mine. They look at me like I am either crazy or blowing things out of proportion when I vent about my son. Online, I have found many communities of parents of challenging children, and it helps IMMENSELY! I feel much less alone, and have found a lot of suggestions and information that at least have given me hope (they usually don't work with my son, but
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 3:03pm
OK, that is true, with a "but." I was just thinking of it today as I wore an old jacket. I made that jacket 5 years ago. The fabric is a really good 100% wool tweed. The buttons are leather, the buttonholes silk and the buttonholes on the sleeves are real. The topstitching is hand done and silk. The lining is nicely pieced with ribbons and reinforcements where needed. That jacket still looks good and fits really well too. It may have cost me 100 bucks to make, but if I had to buy a jacket with the same quality, in material and workmanship, it would have cost 5X that, minimum.
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Registered: 07-29-2004
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 3:05pm

"We are currently wait listed for a few CSA's - but again it is about shopping local and organic -the cost will be more."

Yeah, our CSA for the spring is $50/mo, but it is great quality organic produce. You can't find coupons for produce, that's more of a manner of learning how to freeze and store produce for when it goes on sale BOGO or better. The only other market that is typically organic in our area is Fresh Market. Otherwise, our other grocery stores all have organic stuff available, some more than others and I just drive a couple miles to get to the good ones, but we live in an area of our town where we are very well located between many grocery stores to choose from. My co-op is my *needs* store meaning that I only buy things that we HAVE to have that week so the deals are a little more sparse there.

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 3:08pm
Is that fee (approx $12.50 weekly) included in

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