"I just don't want to work"

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Registered: 09-13-2007
"I just don't want to work"
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:06pm

Hi all... I'm new to the board and I am curious.


I am in my mid twenties, unmarried, no children. I work in an extremely competitive field with many other women my age. Many of us are making six figures and the job is very stressful. We all have a great work ethic, but sometimes when the stress gets really bad, I'll often hear the girls (never the guys) saying things like "Arrgghh... I'm so sick of work. I just want to marry a rich man, have kids, stay home and NOT WORK."....... I was raised by two working parents (two very loving, caring hardworking parents). My mother was very successful in her career, and I feel that when I get married, I will (like my mom) continue to work and raise children at the same time (my mom was definitely "super mom" ---she did it all and was great!)...... My main question: many of the women in my work stay in the position for about 5-7 years and then leave.....the funny thing is...

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Registered: 07-29-2004
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 9:38am

"LOL, beats me; my eyes glaze over at discussions involving that much work in food gathering."

Well, I'm a SAHM, it's my job.

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Registered: 07-29-2004
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 9:40am

"I just would worry if I had high energy kids that the daycare provider would not be so kind to my kids. If you had a tough time dealing with him, how did you know the daycare provider wouldn't?"

My opinion as well. One girl on one of my playgroup boards had a daycare provider tell her that her infant was crying too much and she needed to do something about it or find another place to put the baby! This was an in-home care situation, but come on, babies cry!

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Registered: 09-05-2007
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 9:42am

Things don't have to be on the open market to be on a list of properties that have been TRANSFERRED. I don't know why you keep trying to imply that I don't know what you are saying. I know exactly what you are saying. It doesn't mean you are right.

And yes, Post 1547 SAYS market value, but you are describing appraised value.

>>or to buy well above market value (extremely limited inventory, ex.) and it would then be unfair to base taxes mostly or entirely on the purchase price.<<

If there is an extremely limited inventory that causes people to buy properties at a higher price, it has increased the market value. It is not purchasing above market value. The definition of market value is..... what people will pay for something. I can't believe I have to explain this to you 7 times.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 9:47am

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Oh come on.

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 9:49am
Well, I'm a WOHM; I finally got tired of food shopping so my kid's been doing it for himself for about 7 years now. You know, there's only so much I can put up with and only for so long.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 9:54am
I personally would THANK a daycare provider who let me know that my child wasn't responding well to out of home care. Some babies really do NOT thrive in daycare. Most do -- my older one went to daycare at the age of 8 months without batting an eye. He seemed to love the extra interaction -- even today, at age fifteen, he is very social and loves being around lots of people. My younger son didn't do so well in daycare. It stressed him out. I am to this day grateful that my daycare provider saw the signs, reported them to me, and we made adjustments so that he wasn't miserable.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 9:54am

Liza's rage issues went beyond tantrums -- her anxiety issues went beyond teething and colic -- I STILL turn to one of the young women who cared for her in daycare when i need some advice for dealing with the child...


would you like me again to mentino the literal scars on my back from Liza scratching me until I bled? LOL.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 9:55am

What makes them more

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 10:02am

well in teh case of the daycare I used with Liza - the teachers there were all young women studying or having just recieved degrees ine arly childhood ed and development, as well as some lovely older women who had kids of their own --if they got mad irritated or impatient I never saw it -- I'm sure they did , they're human -- but the point I'm trying to make is a blunt one -- they could stand to spend an entire day with the child.

 

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Registered: 07-29-2004
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 10:04am
I think it was the WAY the DCP did it. It was totally out of left field and she just told her to teach the infant to stop crying or leave (kind of a rediculous notion if you ask me). Now I'm sure most day cares wouldn't have done that, and as someone who takes care of other kids as well I would communicate with the parent if the child wasn't transitioning well, but not all DCPs are the same. My DD would have been a HORRIBLE day care kid. She wouldn't even let her own father hold her for the first 6 or so months, let alone letting me get out of her sight. She's different now and happily goes to the nursery at church. My DS, on the other hand, has ALWAYS happily gone to other people and has been staying in the church nursery since he was a couple of months old. The girls could even get him to sleep by walking him around, something DD would never have done either.

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