"I just don't want to work"

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"I just don't want to work"
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:06pm

Hi all... I'm new to the board and I am curious.


I am in my mid twenties, unmarried, no children. I work in an extremely competitive field with many other women my age. Many of us are making six figures and the job is very stressful. We all have a great work ethic, but sometimes when the stress gets really bad, I'll often hear the girls (never the guys) saying things like "Arrgghh... I'm so sick of work. I just want to marry a rich man, have kids, stay home and NOT WORK."....... I was raised by two working parents (two very loving, caring hardworking parents). My mother was very successful in her career, and I feel that when I get married, I will (like my mom) continue to work and raise children at the same time (my mom was definitely "super mom" ---she did it all and was great!)...... My main question: many of the women in my work stay in the position for about 5-7 years and then leave.....the funny thing is...

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 11:06am

And crying was one of the clues we had that Erica wasn't a good canidate for daycare. Although to be honest we never tried a center, only home dc. But she already was clueing us in that she didn't do well in settings where chaos (her definition of chaos--anything involving more than her and maybe one other person and no noise or activities going on) reigned--even at home in the living room with us. She also hated being held or touched. She would nurse no more than 5 minutes at a time. That's how long she could tollerate being cuddled. It's against the law for a dcp to prop a bottle when feeding an infant. Babies must be held during feedins until they can hold the bottle by themselves.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 11:16am

ROFL, self-narration/endless stream of consciousness? BTDT! I still remember when dd went to see a cartoon version of Tarzan at age 5 or 6 for a party. She came home and wanted to tell me what the film was about. I timed her. She spoke non-stop for about 45 minutes, which included sketches to show the action in more detail. I finlly had to stop her, she was not done after 45 minutes.

It must be added, however, that this is the daughter of a man who prides himself on his ability to lecture without a pause for 3 hour stretches and of a mother who used to excel at oral exams in school mainly because the teachers never got a chance to ask any difficult questions.

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 11:18am

But they're not really resources.

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 11:20am
I agree, did both with dd and it has paid off. She just passed her first German exam and is doing OK in French and Ancient Greek as well-still plays music too. The bet part is that when she is playing music, she doesn't talk. Another thing is drawing. The parts of the brain used in drawing for some reason make it difficult to talk at the same time for most people.
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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 11:21am

I will gladly ship you Liza any time so you can see for yourself.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 11:25am

Yep, that's Dylan to a T (or should I say "to a D"? :). Dh also has a tendency to lecture. Even if I've read the same book or watched the same program on TV (with him, no less), he'll still procede to lecture me on the subject. Even after I've interupted him to say that I already know and that he has already lectured on the subject at least 3 times before. I don't think that he knows that is what he is doing. And after 35 years, I've sort of come to grips with it but I still will let him know that I already know what he's talking about.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 11:25am
What kind of question is that?
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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 11:26am

I always say to Liza "and to think I WAITED for your first word"

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 11:27am

Ah, yes. The Ransome of Red Chief. Might be a way to end your finanical worries, though.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 11:27am
Mine was more intense than so-called high energy. She needed an unusual amount of stimulation as far as I can tell, so when she was still small (under 3-4 years old), simply being in a different place with a different person was a form of stimulation. She saw it as a challenge in some way, I guess. In any event, her providers thought she was the greatest and besides they got paid to dream up activities and things for her to do.

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