"I just don't want to work"

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Registered: 09-13-2007
"I just don't want to work"
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:06pm

Hi all... I'm new to the board and I am curious.


I am in my mid twenties, unmarried, no children. I work in an extremely competitive field with many other women my age. Many of us are making six figures and the job is very stressful. We all have a great work ethic, but sometimes when the stress gets really bad, I'll often hear the girls (never the guys) saying things like "Arrgghh... I'm so sick of work. I just want to marry a rich man, have kids, stay home and NOT WORK."....... I was raised by two working parents (two very loving, caring hardworking parents). My mother was very successful in her career, and I feel that when I get married, I will (like my mom) continue to work and raise children at the same time (my mom was definitely "super mom" ---she did it all and was great!)...... My main question: many of the women in my work stay in the position for about 5-7 years and then leave.....the funny thing is...

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 2:12pm

I cant see putting so much energy into saving $ on food. Its really a minimal expense when compared to other household costs (unless one has 5-6 kids or teenage boys, lol!)


Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 08-14-2007
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 2:13pm

You know, I probably COULD feed my family for $60 a week.

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Registered: 07-29-2004
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 2:17pm

"If something goes wrong during play, the kid may come bawling to mom. If she is not there, the kid is more likely to forget about it. "

Or they will lash out and hit and bite, therefor teaching my kid who has never bit another child in her life that this is an acceptable way to get what she wants. She has hit before, but it was when her and the other child were playing with toys and she was being rough trying to get the toy to "kiss" her friend. On the other hand, my cousin who's DD is 6 months younger has been bit in DC, and then proceeded to become the biter herself for awhile.

That's not me saying that DC is somehow evil, but that they aren't always perfect and teaching of loving, kind values either. As a matter of fact, I'm going to start keeping a little girl who's mother is taking her out of a daycare where two boys keep wailing on each other all the time and her DD has started mimicking them. While that may be a situation that doesn't happen frequently, it does happen.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 2:21pm

when Liza was about 2 or 3 she was in daycare witha nother little girl and they were nothing but trouble togethe r-- oh good lord it got to the poitn it was comical -- I'd meet the other little girls mom in the driveway and we'd "blanket apologize" to each other for whatever bodily or emotional harm our two girls had inflicted on each other during the day...


ironically the girls hadn't seen each other in years and were reunited at a baby shower for one of their daycare teachers when they were both 6 or7 -- it took them about 10 minutes before they were back sniping and swiping at each other -- her mom and I looked at each other and said "well...here we go again..."

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 07-29-2004
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 2:21pm
Fine with me!
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 2:21pm

And I think produce bred to be shipped across the country tastes like crap. Give me locally grown frozen or canned veggies and/or fruit any day over the cardboard they try to pass off as produce in the grocery store.




Edited 10/31/2007 2:25 pm ET by geschichtsgal
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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 2:23pm

i'm in CT. I can't think of a single farmer's market that's open anytime between November & April or so.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 2:24pm
YES!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 2:33pm

I got the impression that her kids are very small, or she might only have 1?


I dont think she is really feeding a "family of 4" on $60 a week. My kids are 16 and 8 and while I do pretty darn well with grocery shopping ($75-100 a week is my average, plus a montly Costco run at about $100-150) I cant see feeding 4 full size people on such a minimal amount.


Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 07-29-2004
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 2:36pm

My youngest is 9 months old and doesn't eat much. I'm pretty sure I mentioned that they were both very young, and I did mention DS several times. I'm sorry you don't know how we eat for that, but that's just our grocery bill (you can even find cook books that have recipes for meals for under $2/person and that's without using coupons and sales). We do eat out about 2 times a week (at most, once for Fri. Family Night and once for Daddy Date Night). But again, we tend to use coupons for that as well. I HAVE to have whole grains due to health problems that I've had to have surgery for a few years ago. I avoid white bread for the most part. I make our own granola (but sometimes I buy it if I find it cheaper like I did the other day), and eat lots of oatmeal.

I'm truly sorry if somehow my grocery bill is somehow offensive to others. I seriously just mentioned it in passing without thinking much of it, but somehow I got jumped on for it and sucked into this ongoing thread. I know lots of moms around me that all use the same system and have similar grocery bills to me and I would not consider any of our diets unhealthy. DH and I are runners and soccer players (just for fun) and we are careful to only splurge on bad for you foods occassionally. We have plenty of food in the house (I could probably go to the store only to buy eggs, milk, and yogurt for 2-3 weeks before feeling the need to restock, but I don't allow our food to get that low) and I did spend close to my original food bill to stockpile that food. I'm not sure what is so controversial about using coupons and shopping sales. I personally couldn't care less if others want to do it. If you don't like it, so what.

I've spent more time in the last two days discussing my groceries than I've spent actually planning and shopping in the last 2 weeks, so I'm getting quite bored and frustrated with this argument.

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