"I just don't want to work"

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"I just don't want to work"
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:06pm

Hi all... I'm new to the board and I am curious.


I am in my mid twenties, unmarried, no children. I work in an extremely competitive field with many other women my age. Many of us are making six figures and the job is very stressful. We all have a great work ethic, but sometimes when the stress gets really bad, I'll often hear the girls (never the guys) saying things like "Arrgghh... I'm so sick of work. I just want to marry a rich man, have kids, stay home and NOT WORK."....... I was raised by two working parents (two very loving, caring hardworking parents). My mother was very successful in her career, and I feel that when I get married, I will (like my mom) continue to work and raise children at the same time (my mom was definitely "super mom" ---she did it all and was great!)...... My main question: many of the women in my work stay in the position for about 5-7 years and then leave.....the funny thing is...

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Registered: 10-02-2007
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 3:08pm
Mkatherine, I get ya, I truly do. There were times that I wondered if there was a military school (day) that I could take my son to to provide him with the absolute structure and discipline that such an environment offers (and to save his life!!). I admit to often longingly seeing how easy (relatively speaking) parenting is to some of my friends. They have kids that "no" means "no" (at least 50% of the time), kids who handle transitions and basic frustrations relatively easily, and who don't run resistance 10000000% of the time. Oy. God must have been delusion when he thought that I could handle this child. But love him I do. I just don't always like him :-(


Edited 10/31/2007 3:48 pm ET by kelmarpet
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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 3:09pm

Actually its quite common for the temps to hit the 90's in the interior of Alaska in July. My dd went to Fairbanks last July to check out the college there and it was about 88 F.


Unless one has a heated greenhouse, no, you cant grow *something* up here in winter. Maybe today, lol, since its 45 degrees and raining when it should be snowing, but on the average, no.


As far as your remark about Alaska, its not that it offends me, its just annoying when people make ignorant comments about places they obviously dont know much about.

Dj


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Dj

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 3:11pm
I don't consider Lunchables as "eating healthy."

 

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 3:12pm

"Interesting. However, that is just one instance. Biters are biters, IMHO. In my experience (my mom was and is a dcp) problem biters don't "learn" the behavior from being bitten."

That doesn't sound like the experience my cousin or SIL had. Their kids got bit and then after that they started biting, then once they bit a kid who started biting they stopped while the other took over. Their DCPs both told them it was normal to have a phase where the kids go around with this. I just don't experience it in my playgroups.

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 3:12pm

LOLOL


My kids beg me for them.

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 3:13pm
I WOH and don't worry a lot about the cost of food, but I do worry a bit about who grew it, harvested it and processed it. There are some political and environmental and ethical questions I want answered before I put it on my table!
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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 3:14pm

Okay now I am confused. You spend so much time and energy on home grown items and talk about eating healthy, then feed lunchables to your kids??? That seems kind of contradictory.


Fwiw, my dh and dd can eat an ENTIRE box of cheerios in 1 day. When my dh is home, we go through a gallon of milk in less than 2 days, and I rarely touch milk. So again,

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 3:16pm

You know...I think you're right...Liza used to bite me during her rage attacks -- bite me so hard I had bruises up and down my arms and teeth mark indentations ringing them...


...and then one day I bit her back.

 

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Registered: 10-02-2007
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 3:17pm
Sehorse, you are describing "typical" children who do eventually sleep through the night alone after a year or two or three or four. You are talking about "typical" children who go through development phases at largely predictable ages and ways. We are not talking about typical children here. I have one typical child and one atypical. I could have 10 typical children all having a bad day, and it would still be easier than dealing with just my atypical son. I swear to you.
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Wed, 10-31-2007 - 3:17pm
Therefore her experience shouldn't count.

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