"I just don't want to work"

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-2007
"I just don't want to work"
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:06pm

Hi all... I'm new to the board and I am curious.


I am in my mid twenties, unmarried, no children. I work in an extremely competitive field with many other women my age. Many of us are making six figures and the job is very stressful. We all have a great work ethic, but sometimes when the stress gets really bad, I'll often hear the girls (never the guys) saying things like "Arrgghh... I'm so sick of work. I just want to marry a rich man, have kids, stay home and NOT WORK."....... I was raised by two working parents (two very loving, caring hardworking parents). My mother was very successful in her career, and I feel that when I get married, I will (like my mom) continue to work and raise children at the same time (my mom was definitely "super mom" ---she did it all and was great!)...... My main question: many of the women in my work stay in the position for about 5-7 years and then leave.....the funny thing is...

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iVillage Member
Registered: 01-15-2006
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:06pm

i kwym.


i've gotten aclimated to this climate in the four short years we've lived here.

 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:17pm
Really? I can see living in a high COL area because of cultural opportunities. But to live in the sticks? And still have an astronomical COL? There are many places with good weather, low crime, and good schools that don't have a high cost of living. In many of those areas the salaries are lower, but the lower cost of living more than makes up for it. California is really overpriced, imo.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:20pm

I bought in 1987 and put down a lot. My mortgage will be paid off in five years.

On the flip side, I have a steep maintenance bill every month, but a good portion of that is deductible (property taxes and interest on the blanket mortgage).

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:20pm
Move to Paris, Rome, Barcelona or Athens and we'll talk.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:28pm
Yes you do get what you pay for, except in the real estate market. Sometimes you pay way more than one would have paid for a few years ago. But I digress. You were saying she couldn't know anything about living in a high cola area. And now you denigrate where she lives because you have a 2 acres & love where you live . . . what is your bone to pick anyway? She lives in a high cola area & probably doesn't want to live where you do. You were the one saying she didn't know what she was talking about!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:30pm

Let me describe why I love where I live so much. It is 30 minutes to my job, and I have access to a lot of high paying work. I live in a fantastic school district that is not only homey/community oriented, but the API scores are extremely high. I am 20 minutes from the beach, 10 minutes to a store/library/emergency clinic, an hour to San Francisco, yet I can walk outside in my underwear if I wanted and lay in the sun and read the paper in the dead of winter. I need and love a lot of privacy, and have it (most of my female friends are much happier in town yet enjoy coming up to my place to visit. Their husbands however wish to move to the mountains). My place feels like a vacation home in the country, yet it is where I live. 20 minutes to all cultural opportunities (and good ethnic food of every variety)!, yet I barely know my neighbors (I know them just enough, but not too much!).


Yet I agree that California is very very overpriced. I consider myself lucky.


I have lived other places, and have always returned to California.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:33pm

That's great -- for YOU -- but there is not enough money in the world to make me leave New England -- you'd have to dynamite me out of here.

 

Yes. We. Did.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:37pm

Well it sounds like her hoa fees paid for the pool & maintenance. But also for enforcing the rules of the neighborhood. Some people just want to live where they are enforced, some people want to live more in the country where anyone can do what they want. Here in AK there are a lot of neighborhoods that have no rules, my parents have lived in them, because they wanted to own a horse. Well that's fine, but then you end up living next to someone in a shack who doesn't maintain their property & keep 5 broken down vehicles in their yard.

Or you can live where I do that has rules & restriction in our subdivision. We don't have any bush height restrictions, but if someone does break one of the rules, there is no home owner's association to tell them to stop or to pursue litigation against them if they don't stop.

So in a subdivision with home owner's assocation they do have a little more teeth to make people follow the rules. Yes most people maintain their homes & yards nicely but there are always a few who like those junker cars in the yard or what have you.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:38pm
Where did I denigrate what she has? I have no issue with her condo in DC. All I said is that if I wanted to live in DC, I would, but I don't so I won't. My liking or disliking DC is irrelevant. She obviously loves where she lives and was lucky to buy when she did so that it only costs her $600 a month. I celebrate her luck like I celebrate my own! I made the mistake of assuming that she bought recently (and concluded that being able to buy ANYTHING for a mortgage of $600 a month definitely did not constitute living in a high cost area).
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-02-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 2:41pm

I am glad that you like New England. I have never been there, but I have heard that it is very beautiful, especially this time of year. The only people that live in California these days are the ones that really really want to be here, so most folks here are very in love

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