"I just don't want to work"

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Registered: 09-13-2007
"I just don't want to work"
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Tue, 10-09-2007 - 10:06pm

Hi all... I'm new to the board and I am curious.


I am in my mid twenties, unmarried, no children. I work in an extremely competitive field with many other women my age. Many of us are making six figures and the job is very stressful. We all have a great work ethic, but sometimes when the stress gets really bad, I'll often hear the girls (never the guys) saying things like "Arrgghh... I'm so sick of work. I just want to marry a rich man, have kids, stay home and NOT WORK."....... I was raised by two working parents (two very loving, caring hardworking parents). My mother was very successful in her career, and I feel that when I get married, I will (like my mom) continue to work and raise children at the same time (my mom was definitely "super mom" ---she did it all and was great!)...... My main question: many of the women in my work stay in the position for about 5-7 years and then leave.....the funny thing is...

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 6:30pm

i'll wait for you.

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 7:35pm

It's already 15 to 20 years later for me, so here's an idea. Why don't you tell me what a carwreck my son is supposed to be and how crappy our relationship probably is and then I can tell you the truth.

Not that you're likely to listen, but it's always funny to me how many militant SAHMs like you toss down that gauntlet and then slink away never to be seen again when they learn my son is grown. IT's also funny that none of them ever have the guts to tell me my grown kid is ruined, in the face of the fact that the future is now.

I think that's the biggest flaw in the gloom/doom predictions of the militant fringe; when faced with reality, they crumble.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 7:48pm
I think most of us have a pretty good head start on you -- some of us here are even grandmothers -- so no need to wait 15-20 years we can tell you know -- the kids are super -- they're better than super -- they're fabulous.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 8:18pm

Not that I am a seasoned mom but I have a few years on you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 8:33pm
Or perhaps.... a bit older? ;)
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Registered: 09-05-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 8:34pm
In CA, where said poster lives, property taxes do not go up with assessed value. Property taxes are based on purchase price.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 8:36pm
Are you serious? Do you really think you're that smart?
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2007
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 8:40pm
I'm trying to think of ANYTHING within 30 minutes of SJ that could remotely be considered "rural". Maybe semi-rural. You would have to drive an hour or two to get somewhere that is *actually* rural.
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 8:41pm

And to think that I used to like you....


;-)


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Registered: 07-21-2006
Wed, 10-24-2007 - 8:45pm

to all that replied to my last comment. that is my point we are not going to change eachothers minds. and none of us can tell the future. im very happy for the ones working and their kids are perfect. ( know many ppl who the mothers working was a horrible idea. im sure you know many sahm who were bad.) what works for some may not work for others and I feel for my family this is whats best. my son just started talking today and if i had been at work i would have missed it!!! not worth it to me. ( i just quit 2 weeks ago my second child is on the way) i have ppl whi live next door and the kids can not join the after school things because they must go to daycare. i feel bad for them. maybe that is not the case for some of you. thats great. i can have a career anytime i would like. thats why i had kids young so that i can go back to the job i love. but after i have seen all my kids firsts and been a room mom and all that. after my kids are in college i will have a good 20 years to work if i would like. (i am sure I will go back before they are in college)


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