I know I should post this below but ...

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I know I should post this below but ...
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Tue, 06-24-2003 - 5:26pm
Just wanted to say HI! and give everyone a status update on my so-called life. And that I hope to get back in the loop soon.

Okay, here's my life.

Dh and I have decided against separation and to go full steam ahead with a divorce. He's still involved with the OW and has pretty much fully moved on. He's basically started a new (albeit long distance) life with her. Power to him. I don't want to be married to a man like that.

The kids and I are in Oklahoma at my parent's house (yea for cable internet! lol) And until I got back I didn't realize how much I missed Oklahoma (its GREEN for pete's sake .. Callahan didn't know what grass was poor kid) and my family and my friends. I've already reconnected with two friends in particular and I'm sure more reunions are to come. So, I 've pretty much (not 100% ... more like 95%) decided to stay here. Not in my parent's hometown (2500 people is TOO SMALL for me), but in a neighboring town (40 miles away) that has a 47,000 population, a great community theatre, a couple of college campuses, several large employers and a good Montessori school. I'm applying for jobs like crazy adn hope that within a couple of weeks I have one.

Stbxh is okay with me movign the kids away. Not happy about it, but okay. He knows how badly he screwed up and knows that if he wants his little idyllic life with OW (commonly known around my parent's house as the home-wrecking bitch ... lol) that he doesn't have any right to tell me to do; something that I feel is wrong for me. He'll still see his kids .. he'll just have to work harder at it.

Oh, and I chopped my hair off today. Chopped off enough (about 10.5 inches) to donate it to Locks of Love. In some ways I miss it .. I was always being approached by strangers telling me how gorgeous it was ... but stbxh always loved my hair ... and I figure a new life needs a new look.

Okay, that's enough for now ... but plan on seeing me around again ...

Miss ya'll (that's okie speak for all of you)

Hollie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-24-2003 - 6:05pm
Good luck to you and eveything you do. I know that you don't know me as a poster or anything. But I lurk ALOT and that's how I am familiar.....Anyway, I hope all the best for you and your family. design
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Tue, 06-24-2003 - 6:14pm
Good for you in all your changes and challenges. It sounds like you are going to to great! Good luck finding a job and getting settled. Dana
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Tue, 06-24-2003 - 6:31pm
This is completely off topic but my husband and I used to do tons of mountain biking before children. Sadly, we haven't made the time to do it as much as we used to. I read in one of your post thatyou still ride all the time. I really miss it! If you can believe it we actually had a tandem mountain bike that we rode together. Anyway, ride a couple miles for me! Design
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Tue, 06-24-2003 - 6:41pm
You sound healthy (emotionally). I am glad to hear you are moving on with your life. You don't need the SOB. Good luck settling in.

Jenna

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Tue, 06-24-2003 - 8:17pm
Hey! It's good to hear from you. It sounds like you are doing well, all things considered.

You know, a very wise man (is that an oxymoron?) once told me, "When a woman wants to change her life, she always starts with her hair."

Hope to hear from you soon, and often!

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Tue, 06-24-2003 - 9:54pm
hey hollie,

it sounds like you are moving on as best as can be expected. hope everything works out for you.

great to hear from you!!

beth

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Tue, 06-24-2003 - 11:15pm
Part of me says I'm sorry, and part of me says good riddance with your dh. I hope all works out for you and you and your kids are happy! Good Luck with your new ventures!
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Tue, 06-24-2003 - 11:30pm
Hollie, you sound so upbeat despite all that you have been through. I haven't been around much lately, so I guess I missed the OW still being in the picture. I know how much you wanted to save your marriage and am sorry that it didn't work out, but it sounds like this is the best for all of you.

Good luck getting a new job and settling back in OK.

And kudos to you for the hair donation - one of my friends did that a year ago. And what a great way to embark on a new stage in your life!

Take care and I look forward to seeing you around again,

Maureen, mostly lurking these days

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Wed, 06-25-2003 - 8:36am
HOLLIE:

I am so glad you checked in! I was wondering how you and the kids were. I wish the news was better, but I'm so glad you took the trouble to update us. We care, even though we're a debate board!

Felicia

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Wed, 06-25-2003 - 5:51pm
We missed you, but I'm glad you were able to unload that loser. what a jerk. Just think of this as the year you lost 185 lbs of dumbass ;)

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