I Think I've Arrived

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Registered: 03-26-2003
I Think I've Arrived
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Tue, 07-29-2003 - 11:16pm
dh and i just ordered new pleated shades for our master bath and two extra bedrooms. he put them up this past weekend, and they are really cool. come down from the top or come up from the bottom. i love them. i was showing my neighbor and admiring them, when dh walked in the front door, and announced "beth, you need to order one more". i said, for what, as i didnt really want them on any of the windows in any other room. he said the dining room, i said but why???? he said......get this.....are you ready???..... "because of the curb appeal. only three of the four windows on the front of the house have the new shades, and it doesnt look good. we need to put one up in the dining room too, so it has curb appeal!". i looked at my neighbor and started jumping for joy and laughing, and shouting, "ive arrived. my man cares about curb appeal!".

ok, some of you might ask, so what? whats the big deal, so get another one. that is not the point. my dh *never* ever cared about the decorating of the house, and how it looked from any angle. sure he tried to make suggestions when we first got married, but when i finally figured out he wanted to recreate his mother's house, i put my foot down. i have my own taste, and am willing to compromise, but im not going to completely give in. anyway, he has been going along with me for years, because he actually discovered i dont do a half bad job at decorating the house. i always tell him what i have in mind before i do it, then if he doesnt completely object, i go forward, but for him to discover the curb appeal or the lack there of, makes me feel like i've arrived. hes hooked. i will never lose him. hes into what pleases the eye.

you know it takes a strong woman to help their man come full circle, and help him realize there is life beyond tvs and computers.


so, here is the question: have i arrived????? what do you think?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 2:32am
From one point of view, I guess you have. But beware you may have created a monster.

I understand the word "curb appeal" but grew up in a house where this was low on the list. However, both my parents cared deeply about decorating, to the point that it got a bit ridiculous at times. They could spend years, literally, discussing back and forth what couch to get. For years my mother lobbied to be allowed to put up curtains in the diningroom. Dad thought this was repulsively middleclass and spoiled the "look" of the house, so it took her 10 years to obtain his grudging ok. I don't think that there was a single chair in the house that was comfortable to sit in. There was a 4foot PH lamp over the dinigroom table. We did not have doors on the kitchen cabinets, this too was deemed hopelessly bourgeois by dad. Since the cabinets were on the floor and formed a sort of galley kitchen, we lost a fair amount of glassware this way, given 3 kids in the house.

So, maybe you have "arrived," but just be careful he doesn't go overboard, LOL.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 8:00am
Congratulations!

I agree with sild. Take caution. In May this year, my father got himself a new toy - an industrial strength power washer.

My parents live in an older house from the 1800s. The exterior is cedar shakes. He decided it could use a good cleaning, you know, for curb appeal.

Some of the tiles on the top floor did not survive the power spray, so they had to be replaced. (it took them some time to locate new ones.) The sprayer also took off about a quarter of the paint. Years ago, they put new windows in, but left one antique single-pane in the attic for *charm.* It did not survive the blast. It was mid-July before they found more cedar tiles, and as of last week, he and mom were still trying to decide on a paint color. In the meantime, dad ripped off the front porch, and has extensive plans to rebuild it.

Mind you, my mom has a green thumb. The yard has always looked tip-top, always landscaped nicely. Now her massive flower beds are full of paint chips and porch remnants. Because his plans include a new driveway next to the small porch, he has been parking his truck in mom's massive wildflower garden.

So much for curb appeal. My mom is hoping he finds a new hobby for the rest of his early retirement. LOL.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 8:37am
Hey, if he finds a new hobby, can I borrow the power washer?LOL

I agree, these things can get WAY out of hand. It's nice to have someone finally appreciate "curb appeal" but it doesn't take much for the whole thing to backfire!


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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 2:56pm
Uh oh, watch out, you may have created a monster. My husband always cared about all the decorating decisions, which made decorating infinitely more time consuming and trouble.

Be careful what you wish for..now you're in trouble!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 07-30-2003 - 6:56pm
believe me, he wont be decorating anytime soon. he already knows, if i suggest something, he cant picture it anyway, and then when he sees it all done, he usually likes it, but as far as taking action in the decorating catagory, he gave that up a long time ago.

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Registered: 11-20-2001
Thu, 07-31-2003 - 7:48am
You have arrived, and better HE has arrived!! Mine did about seven years ago. Right at the time I could be reasonably sure the twins wouldn't trash my garden, I planted quite a nice one. He took over and has been planting aesthetically pleasing flowerbeds all over the front yard, put in a tile patio, fencing, trellis, patio furniture, etc. TV? Computer? Oh no ... as soon as he's up from the dinner table he's out there ... weeding, primping, separating. Actually ... he's been cooking dinner to be ready by 5, so that after the last child leaves my program we eat and he can get an early start ... LOL. Once fall has arrived ... FOOTBALL, we've lost him to the TV.

Congratulations Beth!!! Linda

 

Linda - wife, mother, grandmum                     &nb

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Registered: 11-20-2001
Thu, 07-31-2003 - 8:07am
OMG your poor mother. Linda,n/t

 

Linda - wife, mother, grandmum                     &nb

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-31-2003 - 8:30am
Hah! Ya know, maybe it's just my family, but here the guys don't give up tool nor toy. :)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-31-2003 - 7:13pm
actually, dh doesnt come up with any of the ideas. i always say, im the brains, hes the muscle. i come up with the ideas and he helps me accomplish them, and then stands back to study our work. the day he came in and said it was lousy curb appeal, i almost lost it laughing so hard. it is sooooooo unlike him.