i work while hubby is home

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Registered: 09-01-2007
i work while hubby is home
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Sat, 09-01-2007 - 11:15pm
Hello all, just wanted to say that I've been reading the messages about SAH moms s WOH moms. Well, I go to work and usually work 10-12 (5am-5pm) hours a day and my husband stays home with the children. Although I like my job, I'm missing out on my children's upbringing. For instance, I heard my two year old describe a green crayon and he was right. I didn't know he was learning his colors. I can't go on any field trips unless they're after 5pm or before 5am (lol). Not only that, by the time I get home, I'm exhausted to say the least. I've been trying to find a stay at home job, and send hubby to work because I don't want another instance (the crayon) to go by me again. If you have any ideas, please let me know.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 11:44pm

Do you have any days off?

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Registered: 09-01-2007
Sat, 09-01-2007 - 11:51pm
I have Sat and Sun off, however, I'm so tired that Sat is the day I usually relax. Like now, I've taken some time for the computer and to check emails. I've been online looking at some of the work at home jobs and you're right, they are scams. I'm still looking. Thank you for the reply.
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Registered: 08-14-2007
Sun, 09-02-2007 - 9:47am

Remember that this is a debate board, not a support board. You might try a WOHM or SAHM support board. You'll get more of the response you're looking for.

That said, in order to be a succesful WAHM you should look at two things: 1) what do you do now? What is yoru field? What are you skills and abilties? Find a way to do your current job at home. Those are the women (and men) that are most successful at working from home. And 2) remember that WAH doesn't me "no childcare" or "with your child 24/7". All the successful WAHM that I know use some form of othercare and are not always "with" their child while working.

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Registered: 07-04-2007
Sun, 09-02-2007 - 9:53am
I would also look into WOH but less hours. I work a typical work week and I don't feel I am missing out on anything. But, of course, you could still feel differently and my job is not physically exhausting. Is yours exhausting because of the hours or the type of work?
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sun, 09-02-2007 - 11:01am

WAH is no guarantee of anything. Most wah jobs/careers that I know of require at least some other care for the children. And wah with children in the house can be confusing for young children. Mom/dad can be wah but be no more available than if they were woh because of job needs/deadlines, etc. That said, if you really want to wah, make a list of all your assets: hobbies, interests, abilities, etc. Do you want to work for someone else or be your own boss? Can you do what you're doing now but at home, at least some of the time? Cut back on your hours? If it's the commute that is making it such a long day, can you shorten that? Buy a 2nd (or even 1st) car, move closer to your job.

I wah as a dressmaker. I also woh pt as a seamstress at a bridal shop.

Chris

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