If you could do it over again?

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Registered: 12-28-2007
If you could do it over again?
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Wed, 01-16-2008 - 9:10am

Just been thinking alot lately about these last 10 years of my life (my kids are almost 10) and wonder if I had it to do over again, would I have quit my job and given up so much to be with my kids? I think I would have quit but would have gone about things sooooo differently.


My advice to anyone thinking of quiting to be home with kids is....don't take yourself out of your own life (financially, career wise, socially)!! Too many of us make this sacrifice only to find ourselves, years later, wanting back "in" (jobs for example) and not being able to get back even close to where we were before.

 

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Registered: 12-28-2007
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 2:38pm
I think the whole key is balance as best we can. To work out of the house and be with the kids (and make enough money to make it worth your while!!) is the ideal for me too. I have that now and make ok money but have a really flexible schedule and have a great time with my job- love it most every day.

 

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 11:17am

just a note....I've woh ft (in the same job) and my kids are now 16, 13 and 12. I've always been their "number one" and my kids know that they can count on their dad and me -- and their step-dad too!


eileen

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Registered: 01-18-2008
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 10:57am

I am sorry if I didn't explain myself clearly.. my husband works 60+ hours a week in the summer plus has his own business so he is gone for a lot of the time (sunrise to sunset).

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 10:41am
but why would you doubt that children of workign parents don't know they're also "number one" and that they can "count on mommy and daddy"

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 06-17-2000
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 10:40am
Just to clarify, we no longer live on that, and were able 3 years ago to buy our own home.
 

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Registered: 01-18-2008
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 10:33am

When I was pregnant I was a mortgage loan officer, I had a large customer base and was fortunate to make a fanfastic living.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 6:02am

I'm glad that you have no regrets. I don't either and I continued to woh ft all the while raising kids.

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Registered: 06-17-2000
Thu, 01-24-2008 - 2:40am

I had never thought of staying home as sacrificing myself.

 

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Registered: 01-04-2007
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 9:30am
I wish he realized it. But he seems to think I have it easy because I "get to stay at home all day and do whatever I want." If only he knew! He watches her for the shortest period of time and he can't deal with it, yet he thinks it's easy for me. I just hate how his life hasn't really changed at all and mine is completely unrecognizable. Last time I checked it took both of us to make the baby, and it should be both of us sharing the responsibility.
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Registered: 12-28-2007
Wed, 01-23-2008 - 7:21am
Sounds like you are doing the right thing then. When you do what is good and healthy for you then you are better able to care for your baby! Just remember that when you have self doubts. Staying home full time is not for everyone.

 

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