If you could do it over again?
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If you could do it over again?
| Wed, 01-16-2008 - 9:10am |
Just been thinking alot lately about these last 10 years of my life (my kids are almost 10) and wonder if I had it to do over again, would I have quit my job and given up so much to be with my kids? I think I would have quit but would have gone about things sooooo differently.
My advice to anyone thinking of quiting to be home with kids is....don't take yourself out of your own life (financially, career wise, socially)!! Too many of us make this sacrifice only to find ourselves, years later, wanting back "in" (jobs for example) and not being able to get back even close to where we were before.
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I agree with you b/c as much as I want to stay home with my NB even if I did for just a year or so I would want to go back b/c I look at my 6yr old and she loves to see mommy get up in the morning & get dressed for work. I think showing them (as long as you are able to do so) working is apart of life as well as balancing home life are both just as important. what I mean by that is I know women who have stayed at home everyday of their childrens lives and still dont have the relationship with their children that I have.
My daughter will know that a woman has to do what a woman has to do. Working pays the bills and
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No thanks. I have better uses for $6--such as Starbucks.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
Life comes at you fast (is that a commercial? :)) and you do your best with the current situation. I think that a lot of women, if they had to chose, would do something different than if they had "no choice in the matter". Does that make sense? However, I personally encourage every single woman to set herself a goal, plan a path to get there and start working on it. Because in the end, every single journey starts with the first step AND a goal in mind.
If I had to do it all over again, AND I had the choice, I would still work, but probably from home. Only because it allows me the time flexibility to make changes to my schedule to meet my family's needs. I love working and could spend all day working on my designs.
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"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t
Kitty
"I think Noonan is at least eight years too late when she laments that faith now trumps competence in GOP politics. It didn't seem to bother her much when a candidate she supported -- the catastrophically underqualified GWB -- was running and citing Jesus as his favorite political philosopher...It's like the old saying: When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with Hucka-fleas..."--Gator
Click on the Virginia Rescue Center and search for Roxey, VA5165
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Kitty
"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
Kitty
"I think Noonan is at least eight years too late when she laments that faith now trumps competence in GOP politics. It didn't seem to bother her much when a candidate she supported -- the catastrophically underqualified GWB -- was running and citing Jesus as his favorite political philosopher...It's like the old saying: When you lie down with dogs, you wake up with Hucka-fleas..."--Gator
Click on the Virginia Rescue Center and search for Roxey, VA5165
~~~~~~~~~
Kitty
"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t
I think I would still need to work and have Seth go to daycare. I've been home with him for over a month now and I find that he doesn't have as much of my attention as he would when I was working - funny!
We're in a dysfunctional schedule right now and sleep on the same schedule thanks to a new living arrangement and I'm not getting a chance to get much done while he's asleep anymore. I've been trying to multi-task around the house and it just isn't working.
If I could change anything, I think I would try (and will try) to work a little earlier in the morning so that I can get home sooner to spend more time with him before he goes to bed. For a long time I was spending a few hours in the morning and a few hours in the evening, but he was always groggy in the morning and would just lay around in bed. I think I'd rather finish early and see him sooner, which is what I 'd like to do when he gets a little older. I want to try to work a modified schedule so that I can at least pick him up from school and attend after school activities and kind of get the best of both worlds.
Claudia
Mommy to Seth 6/29/06
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